"When I grow up I'm not going to have a husband, I'll just use a man for babies and then dump him and we will all live with you forever, Mum" Said my 7 yr old last night.

[Aimsmum]

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[Anna8888]

Your DD's family role model is pretty mother-focused with father on the sidelines.

Are you thinking of moving in with your DP? I'm not sure how you change the role model otherwise.

[SheherazadetheGoat]

i wouldn't over analyse this. she is probably trying to organise her future life without having to leave you, which is sweet.

[KaySamuels]

I may get my head bitten off for saying this but my step kid's mum has this view point, and it means she lives how she wants, DP fathered her kids and pays for them, and the two boys feel very conflicted when they want to spend time with their dad. This is not my bitterness or dp's opinion his ex is very open about it.

Your dd is only little and in a way it is good she knows women can be independent and happy without relying on a man, she is still only little really and they have a simple view of the world based on their own experiences (which is you as a strong happy mum).

Do you know any nice couples you could offer as examples to her?? Kids this age do have funny views onmost things so I wouldn't worry too much.

[KaySamuels]

My friend's dd wants to marry her dad when she grows up.

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[gillybean2]

My son wanted to marry me and live at home for ever, that's what he used to say when he was 5ish. Now he understands better that when you grow up you leave home and have your own family. He asked why i wasn't married too and I explain i haven't found the right man yet, but that I hope I will one day.

I also distinctly remember saying i'd never have babies when i was a child, because it was far too icky and painful to actually have one. Things change when you are older though.

I wouldn't worry too much about it, but would say don't ignore it when she talks like this. If you can use examples around you of good male role models, even if it's in stories or sopa operas or whatever. And if you're hoping to find Mr Right still then talking about it might help her see that having someone to share life with can be important, but isn't the be all and end all and it's more important to find the right someone than just any old someone perhaps.

Gilly

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[nkf]

She's only seven. I doubt it indicates anything about her future.

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[chipmonkey]

I'd be more worried that she'd never leave, Ainsmum! She could still be there at 40, 3 kids in tow.........

[Ineedacleaner]

I said something similar to my mum when I was about that age and my parents have been married forever. I think at that age they just don't want to leave us so think this is a reasonable solution, in about 10 years she will be running down that path to get to uni or college and away from you lol.

[KristinaM]

we are a two parent family with a very involved dada and my 8yo thinks like thsi too

recently she was choosing names for her future children and when i suggested that her future DH/DP might like a say in this she just looked at me like i was mad - she didnt see the needs for a man either

[KristinaM]

dad i mean

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[littlewoman]

Yea, I think its a "I don't want to leave mum/ boys are yucky, but I want the babies" combo. Don't worry too much. You haven't damaged her ;o)

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[NatalieJane]

I think they all have a level of not understanding that one day they will want to leave home, and us, behind.

My DS1 can never decide if he want's to marry DH, DS2, or me more. I think it is sweet, if a little worrying that we'll never get our kids out of the front door!

[ska]

my dd is going to live with me forever and i can sleep with her if i like. or she may live next door. she is either going to take in washing (as she doesn't think mummies should go out to work) OR be a arkeologicalist or possibly a scientist who helps animals on fridays.

that's her sorted then!

[morningpaper]

My 5 year old says things like this all the time

The thought of leaving the family home/mummy is the worst thing in the world at this age

Don't worry!

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[chipmonkey]

Actually, now that I think of it, when ds2 was 6 we had a conversation like this:
ds2: Mammy, I don't ever want to leave this house
Me: Well, you don't have to leave this house, but maybe one day you'll want to.
Ds2: Why will I want to?
Me: Well, you might meet a girl and she'll like you and you'll like her and you might want to get your own house.
Ds2: But houses cost a lot of money, where would I get the money?
Me: Well, you'll have a job by then, so that's how you'll have money
Ds2: But I don't even know what job I want to do!
He was totally freaked out by the whole idea of growing up, I think!

[MadameCh0let]

She wants to be like u. Tell her that you didn't use her daddy just to get a baby, tell her that u loved him once!