Hoping for some advice. Please.
Ex left over 2 years ago, for ow. Left me with ds then aged 2 and 5.
Since then he's been rewriting history to make it seem like it was my fault he left and generally being unhelpful, unpleasant, abusive, mildly threatening. Long history in relationship of him being bullying, and one episode where he assaulted me when I was pregnant.
When he left, ow didn't appear to want him but in the last few months they appear to have got back together.
He's always been very demanding with regard to what he wants - but since taking back up with ow this has escalated.
He already takes do to school 3 mornings a week - there is no need for him to do it, I could, it's a 5 min walk. He absolutely insists and will not deviate. He has docs one weeknight eve for tea and on Friday picks up from school and returns sat bedtime every week. Holidays are shared 50/50.
He lives in a 1 bed flat 30 mins away, it isn't really suitable for overnights at all but he has pushed and pushed for the fri nights. He wants more overnights but I don't feel this is best for dcs, they have to share bed and also it is dirty and they hold themselves rather than use loo. They smell when they get back from contact.
I work ft , so does he. So in a typical week, they are in after school every day, are with me 5 pm to bedtime 3 nights a week, him 2 nights I. Week and he has 1 weekend day, me the other.
He pays the legal minimum for maintenance and will not help with any extra expenses, shoes etc.
I am still in jointly owned house, I paid all £25 k deposits, he has paid half mortgage but not contributed anything to maintenance of it / improvement.
Now he's banding on about wanting more contact. As far as I see it's already nearly 50/50. I don't see what more I can give him. He wants to go to mediation. I can't afford it and anyway I can't see the point, he has all I can give him. I've said no as I can't afford it. I expect he will threaten me with court next. Can he? What for? What's worst that could happen?
Thanks if you've read this far 💐💐
Oh and dc parrot what he has said, they want to see daddy more, but when they do see him they are unsettled and there are often arguments between him and dcs.
There's loads more, not trying to drip feed but also don't want to write an essay....
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MerryDickCrack · 12/05/2016 21:00
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