He's got 7 yo dd this weekend. This morning I get an email from him complaining that she doesn't pick up the phone when he calls her, so he expects her to always pick up on Monday, Wednesday and Fridays at 5pm, and he expects my support in this.
That time is not terribly convenient. She's either getting ready for going out to an activity (doing homework, eating dinner, getting changed) or she's at a friend's house. He claims anytime after 7 is no good because she'll be too tired. I'd translate that as after 7 I'm out looking for the next person to shag. It's the perfect time for her to talk to him.
The other problem is she's angry with him. He's discussed the relationship with her, and this has not put him in a good light in her eyes. So sometimes she doesn't want to talk to him. I encourage her as much as I can, but I'm not going to force her.
He won't accept any of that. It's my fault because I just quietly sit there and let her ignore him. I do not, but he was standing at the bottom of the driveway shouting this at me this afternoon (not in front of her).
I've told him why she's so angry with him, suggested how he can tackle her questions about what's happened without going into adult level detail. I've suggested that he needs to discuss when it's a good time to call. I've said if we do those things she might not always be picking up at first, but with time she may.
I'm worried, because he's moved so far away and only sees her every other weekend. What's he going to do when she's a teenager and has a social life that gets in the way of his contact? I've not pointed that out to him.
He says IABU. Am I?
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Mamapotter2008 · 29/01/2016 17:36
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