Apologies in advance, I'm going to waffle and I'm really tired so may be a bit confusing. Ive only just finished bedtime to two hyper kids after being in work all day and being clocked on the head with a night light!
I could just really do with some help and/or advice.
I'm at the end of my rope.
My ex really messes with my head to the point where I don't want any form of communication with him any more.
If I stopped communications with him it would mean that he wouldn't see the children as currently his access (when he sticks to it) is supervised by me, and I'm scared that me doing that would make him go down the legal route and I might end up having to hand my children over to a man they've hardly seen in 10 months.
Just this week he has contacted me begging to see the children and having a go at me for not letting him see them and denying access! I literally havent heard from him since Christmas!? How do I even respond to that?
He does this periodically, he comes up with something out of blue just to have a go at me. I'm just sick of it. He doesnt swear or rant, hes far too considered for that. He'll talk down to me, almost like scolding me like I'm a teenage babysitter or some kind of 19th century servant. I cant put it into words other than to say its absolutely infuriating.
We have been separated for almost two years. In that time he has been mostly unemployed, homeless, using drugs, on bail, in prison and is now on licence from prison (nice eh). He has paid no child support or contributed anything towards their up keep.
I have never denied contact and in all honesty have lived in hope that one day he will be a decent reliable father who actually helps towards their upbringing financially and practically. I really cant see this happening now and I truly believe its all just to torment me.
What can I do about it is my question? Do I stop contact and contact a solictor? Go to a contact centre or just ignore him and see what happens? I really cant take any more mind games.
Sorry, this is a bit scatty!
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anditgoeson · 19/01/2016 21:07
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