Hi mummy's
I really need some advice and support on how to deal with dd's dad introducing her to his new partner and whether I'm being unreasonable.
DD was only 2 in July and although this (insert word here) has apparently been in and out of his life the past year....Yes we where together :( I have finally kicked him out, 10 days ago and he's straight back seeing her, she has already met his older two from a previous relationship but they are much older and he's happy for them to play happy families and I wonder if any of you have been in the situation where you really don't want your child around this other person (I've been assured her house is dirty and she has no control over her kids aged 5 and 7). How long is reasonable for me to stand my ground, am I even being reasonable or am I being bitter. He also lives in a bedsit (which is dirty and no way suitable for DD) so he can't have her over night anyway.
How did you deal with this, what's a reasonable amount of time for them to 'prove' they are in a real relationship am I right to say I want to meet her first? I'm even thinking of just turning up at her house in the near future to actually see for myself what state the house is (I'm thinking maybe this is me loosing the plot!!), if it's arranged then obviously they will clean right before as my ex knows if it's dirty (and not just messy) I will not let her set foot in the door.....
I'm fighting with so many feelings and emotions I really don't know whats right or wrong, sane or crazy thinking :(
Thanks in advance xx
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Elliesyummymummy · 26/09/2015 08:23
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