My dh moved out a few weeks ago, he has been staying with a friend but is looking for permanent accommodation. He earns a low wage and already has to pay CSA for another child.
My dc's have sn's and it's important to me ( and him ) that he has regular contact and be able to have the dc's stay with him one night a week but this means paying more for somewhere suitable for the dc's to stay.
Today he phoned me to tell me he has found somewhere where the dc's will have room to sleep but if he has to pay me too much maintenance he will not be able to afford to take the accommodation, he wants to know how much I need him to pay or he wants me to agree that he will pay for school uniform, school trips etc rather than weekly payments.
Everyone keeps telling me he should pay the full amount of maintenance and live in a bed sit. At the moment it's more important to me that he can spend time with his dc's which will also provide me with respite and time to myself.
How can we agree on what he should pay? Should I just agree that he pays for things when the dc's need them and when he has money to do so as long as he agrees to weekly contact ( over night stays )?
We are on good terms, I do want what's best for everyone, I am the one who ended things and I want to keep things syvilised for the dc's. I want him to be a big part of their lives, I know if he was living in a bed sit this would not happen.
What do I do?
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Sorting out maintenance payments without using CSA?
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Inthepastlife34 · 09/05/2015 19:47
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