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What to do about Dd1's birthday

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nutcracker · 07/11/2006 22:36

Dd1 will be 9 on saturday and so far me or the kids haven't heard from xp since last wednesday.

I have a feeling he will do one of two things, A)Ring me up on Friday and say he is coming over on saturday to see her, or B)Not contact her at all.

Now if it is A then that is fine but we have made arrnagements for most of the day. Dd has a ballet lesson late morning and then a ballet rehersal for her exam at 5pm. After that my mum and brothers are coming over for chinese (surprise for dd1).
Now if xp wants to see dd on her bithday then that is fine with me but am I right to make him fit in with what we have already planned, considering he hasn't been in touch at all ???
He would have to come and visit in between the 2 ballet lessons.

If god forbid he does B then what the hell do I do ?? I think he may ring but if he doesn't come and see her or send a card she is gonna be well upset understandably and I will be furious.

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tortoise · 07/11/2006 22:48

If its A then yes he has to fit in a visit around your planned days activities.
Not sure about B.
Hope she has a great day.

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nutcracker · 07/11/2006 22:49

Thanks

If it is B then I will probably kill him.

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nutcracker · 09/11/2006 14:33

Just to say, he did eventually ring and so i stuck to the plans we had already made and told him what time he would be welcome.

He was very unimpressed but as I pointed out, it is his dd's day not his and I don't give a toss wether he wants to come earlier, later or whatever, but he will not be allowed to disrupt things.

Oh and can you believe that he moaned because I said he had to buy her a card from hmiself as I was only putting my name on the one from me what a cheapskate.

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misdee · 09/11/2006 14:34

did you get sorted for the belt?

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tortoise · 09/11/2006 15:52

Glad you have something arranged now.And relieved for your DD that he got in touch.
Thats madness to moan about having to buy a card! Does that mean he won't buy a present either?!
Hope she has a fab day.
Belt?

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nutcracker · 09/11/2006 16:20

Yep sorted for the belt now thanks, and dd is drying up for a week

He isn't buying pressies no, I said this year and this year only, I would say they are from us both but only because I used the money from the sale of the car to buy them.

Next year he is on his own.