Does anyone else feel like their child,s dad doesn't know their child at all.

[Foxy800]

Every Christmas and birthday I have to give him ideas of what to get them.Don't get me wrong glad he gets them things but just feel if he knew them he would have idea of what to get them.Sorry whinge over.x

[BlackeyedSusan]

mine did not really get them when he lived with them either. he could not keep up with the changes in routine and likes and dislikes. He is still flabbergasted that dd does not like carrots. x

[refreshinggreen]

DS's dad literally doesn't know him at all. He's never had any contact let alone bought him gifts or paid maintenance. I'm not sorry about it though because frankly DS and I are both better off without him. Just move on, live well and don't waste your time spoonfeeding him this information - it doesn't do any good to your DCs as they'll eventually learn what he is like.

[Foxy800]

I do just get on as he only sees her three days a month with no contact in between unless to benefit him!Just amazes me how little he knows her.

[Foxy800]

I actually feel we would be better off too but as they do have contact I do best I can around it.

[foslady]

Mine's dad is the same - not a bloody clue and this from the bloke who would burst in the door when he lived here and say 'Who's the best daddy?' because he'd picked up the magazine I set up the subscription for.......(and cancelled it 6 months after he left leaving me with a 6 year old (at the time) having hysterics and then having to sort that mess out. It hasn't improved over time but at least she knows not to hope for miracles unless I've had the imput that you mention at Christmas.......)

[Foxy800]

I have been giving a few ideas as I don't want her upset but think from now on just going to let him figure it out!x

[assessment]

Yes I think ExH knows a different version of DD in a way.

He knows the once-a-week child, by which I mean he knows that she likes the playground because that's what they do, and he knows that he likes pasta, because that's what he feeds her.

He doesn't know her though. How can he when she's pre verbal and he's not there all the time? He doesn't know that she likes swimming, or the zoo, or trampolines, or what she watches on TV or likes for breakfast.

He can't tell if she's ill or tired or bored.

He doesn't know her friends or that she LOVES babies but hates dolls.

Massive loss for him. Personally, I don't care. I'd rather he just fucked off completely.

[Foxy800]

Know exactly what you mean assessment.x