As part of our divorce settlement 7 years ago my ex agreed to pay £x for our two children who are now 16 and 18 and will be in FT education for 1.5-2.5 years. His income is partly from a paid job, partly from rental income from a property and part from extra consultancy work which is very well paid but I think often paid in cash and not through his accountant. He has never set up a standing order and rarely pays on time but does usually pay, although I often have to chase him. In the last two years he's started making random 'deductions' with no prior consultation, sometimes for money he gives friends to give the children language lessons or the like (these are not qualified teachers though). I would like to have regular reliable child maintenance paid so I can plan - and I bear the responsibility for the vast majority of regular oust goings which are substantial as they are now teenagers an one is a serious athlete in a very expensive sport costing approx £200/month.
I don't want to take an aggressive approach, but I feel bullied and powerless and the random deductions happen every month from between £50-£200 now and make it hard for me to manage my finances. What ways have others found of getting regular child maintenance outside of the formal structures, and if I had to go down the formal route how would I do that?
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Best non-aggressive way to get an ex to pay child maintenance?
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stellarossa · 15/02/2015 14:18
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