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Introducing son to long-distance boyfriend.

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Honeybadger83 · 16/01/2015 11:45

I have being a single mum since my little boy was to, he is now four. I recently began a long distance relationship, having met someone online. My boyfriend lives about 60 miles away, and has children of his own, so we only get to see each other every few weeks. Due to the distance and the scheduling headaches of our respective ex's, although we have been together for five months, I have only actually met up with him about 8 times, usually for a weekend. I don't know how this compared to how often single parents who live closer get to see each other :)

Is it too soon to start thinking about introducing the children? Just casually at first, of course.

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Cookiecake · 16/01/2015 20:36

I think that it sounds quite early days, but I know some people who introduced their children fairly early on and they are still happily together. In the future what will you do about the distance? Is there a chance either of you would move to be nearer the other? I think personally I'd have to be sure that things were serious.

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Honeybadger83 · 17/01/2015 13:23

Cookiecake; there's not much chance of either of us being a position to move, not for a few years at least. Financial considerations aside, I wouldn't want to separate my son from his dad, and I know my bf wouldn't move away from his kids.
But I think we're both in this for the long haul, and we don't have much hope of seeing each other more frequently without including the children.
Plus, I kinda want to see him in his 'dad' role before we get too much further.

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