I really dont want to have to as i fear it will have the opposite effect.
Ok ds is 4. He goes to his dad's with ds1(8) EOW friday-sunday. The original arrangement was friday 6pm - sunday 6pm but exp fucked about for months, not turning up, turning up late, turning up the next day, cancelling at last minute etc so my contact with him mainly revolved around finding out if he was coming, if he would be on time, if not then when would he be coming etc. when he did take them he was leaving them back around 7.30/8pm on the sunday evenings and i let it slide after the first few messages reminding him about the 6pm agreement because basically he ignored me and i believe kept them later to get to me. But now ds2 has started primary and not only is he exhausted when he gets home on sunday evenings he is also now exhausted on mondays in school and its coming out in temper/crying tantrums both with me and in school. Im working really hard with him on his behaviour an he's responding well except for when he is beyond himself with exhaustion and i basically have to get him straight to bed on sunday evenings as soon as he comes home without even a bath.the fact that im not getting to spend any time with him after not seeing him all weekend is upsetting but not the main issue. Its that hes so tired and its awful to see him like that. I want to contact exp and ask him if he will bring then home at 6pm as agreed but i need to get the point across in a way that wont get his back up and that he can see its for the dcs im asking. He is quite immature and i can see him doing the opposite just to piss me off which would just be awful for the dcs. I know from ds1 that he lets them stay up very late (after 11pm) on the friday and saturday nights but i know i have no right to say they have to go to bed earlier at his house just explaining that this is why ds is so tired.
So in my shoes would you contact him and if so how do i phrase it so he sees im not just giving hom orders?
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YoureBeingASillyBilly · 11/11/2013 16:26
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