this may be long so i apologise in advance
I have a number (local) pop up on my mobile today answered it politely and was confronted by my ex mil wanting to speak to me about my ex. she automatically put my back up when i said that i was on my way to school she replied "you dont need to leave till half 2 surely so you CAN find time to talk to me" i was polite and replied why i was leaving for school early was my business but i was willing to walk and talk but i didnt have long.
she then launched into a tirade against me whereby i stopped her asked her what she wanted to talk to me about my ex and she said he can not have the girls this weekend, on asking why he said its because dd1 (9) behaviour is so bad he cant cope and i said well is that just for this weekend and she said no they have no idea how long it will be until he is ready to see her again
now firstly dd1 is a typical 9 year old shes struggling with the new family hes thrust her into but has not done anything harmful or spiteful to anyway broken anything, she answers back a bit but from what i can see from the conversation the other weekend the bad behviour goes no further than that.
so i asked was i supposed to just sit around wait for him to decide hes ready and then allow contact again? and what if her behaviour there is no better just keep letting him walk in and out/
she said yes...i saw red and said "fine tell him thats fine i will pick up the pieces again and text me when hes ready for restart contact but to warn him by then the only place im interested in sorting contact will be court.
probably wrong but ffs they are the adults are they not/ he does nothing to try and sort any bad behaviour, hes emotionally abusive to her (calls her names tells her shes not perfect enough that the others misbehave because of her you get the idea) when she is good shes ignored so to be honest id rather they dont go
where do i go from here? do i just wait and see then let him restart access or can i refuse contact and demand it go through courts i worry about his ability to look after them now after all this has come to a head and more so when i told dd they wouldnt be seeing him this weekend before i could say a single other word she said "its because im so naughty isnt it thats what daddy tells me and that everyone else is naughty because of me" what sort of burden is that to put on a 9 year olds shoulders?
shes a good kid bit mardy bit hormonal, but essentially a good kid works hard at school is kind to her friends helps me around the home, its only at his that shes naughty and ive told him time and time again shes crying out for attention...or maybe im all wrong in this?
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keelyboo · 02/07/2013 18:01
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