I've been a LP for about 6 years now, with a DS who is almost 7. Over the years, the relationship with DS's dad has evolved into to a really balanced and warm co-parenting situation. XP has DS every other weekend, pretty much 1/2 the holidays and he also has his other DS (14) at the same time, which our DS loves and really enjoys.
But, the problem is that we live in different towns - XP (and DS's brother) are both 50 minutes away. This is starting to affect DS wanting to do local weekend activities and, as he gets older, will also mean he can't see his friends on "dad" weekends. I also don't really have any local support - it's been really hard to break into the local "mum" community (LPs are a bit rare round here!), I haven't got any family around here and while I have a fab childminder helping out (I work FT), it really is pretty much down to me which is a bit scary.
I've now got the option of moving down to near XP and I'm seriously considering it. I think that DS will not only need his dad more as he gets older, but he'll be near the rest of his family and I'll be far more likely to have some support. Schools/house prices etc are about the same as here and it is likely to be a bit more LP friendly.
But..there is always something : it's going to put an extra 30 mins each way on my daily drive to work (taking it up to 50-60 mins drive each way). Which is an extra hour or more that I'm probably going to have to put DS in before/after school care. And considering I start work at 8.30, that is a really early start for DS every day.
So..bugger it. What should I do.......I am going round in circles. My heart is telling me to move, but is adding that to my commute completely mad..?
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Boopear · 26/05/2013 22:34
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