It's taken months for this to process but it's finally here. The children's absent father has expressed interest in attending too, but I doubt he will travel that far for it.
What should I expect to hear or volunteer from the session? Im vaguely aware they prepare a report whoch may be used in court.
Am I supposed to recount all details of the domestic violence? I'm asking for supervised contact centre visits for our young children as he hasn't been touch for over a year and lives 200 miles away, so would we just be discussing why I want this, or is the session to suss me out or something?? I read somewhere it's held by psychology practitioners, so I'm a it concerned they are going to open a floodgate I'd rather keep shut, as I have tried to compartmentalise my recent past and just move on.
I'm worried that I will be quoted word for word and that will be read out in court or copied to his solicitor for his then perusal, and I have major confidence issues so am totally verbally inarticulate. I have developed a paranoia of authority since living with him I think as I seem unable to enter rational discussion about my personal or family life without becoming agitated and even feeling mentally aggressive :/
I just don't know what I am supposed to say.
On the one hand as much as I don't want to see him again, I thought mediation was to bring two warring parties together to help facilitate clear and rational discussion/solution.
It's highly unlikely he'll attend, perhaps he'll go to an appointment in his own town. In which case, would we both be able to view eachother's statements at some future point if it goes to court? I'm also curious as to what he wants really. (This whole issue isn't about seeing the children, he's never been denied them, he has said and written this is all about placing as much vengeance and wrath (his words) as possible on me. So I'm morbidly curious to know what I'm up against really.
Thankyou in advance for any views.
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Snowme · 15/03/2013 15:01
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