Single..no contact with father of dd.. Struggle street!

(11 Posts)
surprisearrival Thu 21-Feb-13 19:22:51

Anyone else out there doing it all alone? Dd has never met her father and he wants it that way; he doesn't do anything other than harass me and upset me (most Notable was asking me to be surrogate for he and the wife he pretended he didn't have.. Because they can't have another (he's already got 9 kids !!). My parents help; but not much; dd is 2 and I've had one half day (morning) "off" and not at work; I never get to go out in eve and have literally no friends. I'm so lonely and exhausted I'm finding it harder and harder to cope with daily life! I just want a hug and life to be a bit easier! Anyone else in a position like this or has any words of wisdom??? Please? Xx

queenofthepirates Japan Thu 21-Feb-13 21:56:32

I'm in your shoes too with a 2yo DD. Sending you a very big hug!
So what's stopping you from dropping off DD with your parents and you having a morning off for yourself?

MySonIsMyWorld Fri 22-Feb-13 21:26:26

Exactly like you exept dp has punched the tv through in front of 21 month old son 2 weeks ago and he hasnt been back, not even asked about ds - he gone back to his mothers who he slagged off 24/7 so im sat in, lonley, surfing mums net.... think of it like this way, you dont deserve my beautiful dc your nothing but a wanker and i am glad your gone

iwantanafternoonnap Fri 22-Feb-13 21:49:40

Huge bloody hug for you. I am lucky that I have a lodger so I have some adult chat in the evenings.

It is shit isn't it?? I am drinking wine and watching Stella with a sick child (cough/cold) sleeping on the sofa next to me.

I have no words of wisdom I am afraid. Just thank your lucky stars you still aren;t with the wanker that's what I say xxxxx

MySonIsMyWorld Sat 23-Feb-13 19:36:17

Id love a lodger!!! it really is shit, really crap....
2 weeks 2 days .... one day at a time xx

janey223 Sat 23-Feb-13 21:02:03

DS (13m) has never met his father and despite me trying a few time I've had no contact from him since I was 12 weeks pregnant.

We go to lots of groups and I have a few mummy friends but most of my other friends disappeared. I have one friend who comes over once a week and we have a couple of beers and one who always insists on taking me out on the occasion one of my parents are in town (she's very busy, works 50 hours a week with an older DS so gets its difficult to meet up).

I'm very lonely to be honest but just getting on with it.

Xxx

IlianaDupree Sat 23-Feb-13 21:15:01

I'm with you, been on my own, no help for 16 years. I've always had acquaintances but sometimes is so bloody soul destroying when you realise the only adult you've spoken to in the last 7 days was a shop worker hmm

I've been told over the years that people are awed at how I've coped and are more than happy to help out with a chat/lift/day out. I've just had to put us as a family out there and spread things around

Go to groups, talk about being lonely, many mums are, even with dh's

Mn hugs wink

MySonIsMyWorld Sat 23-Feb-13 21:23:13

I dont think there anything else we can do is there....

I hate that ex is back on facebook adding people and just seen one of the girls he added has now got a pic of herself and ricks dad as her profile picture which is abit confusing...... he playing mind games.... i would come of facebook as i hate it but im addicted to the games ahahahahahaa

im hurting so bad at the moment.....

IlianaDupree Sat 23-Feb-13 22:08:20

Block him, he's not worth it. Get how you feel out, my ex is a complete effin bastard who doesn't know how bloody amazing his child is.

Scream, shout, sob, play sad songs, watch a soppy movie and, as they say, live well, it's the best revenge.

Are there other mums you could arrange a babysitting club with? You could all go out together or have the dc for sleep overs so you get the chance to go out.

You can do this without him and be happier than you ever thought.

angelelle Sun 24-Feb-13 21:03:07

I have a four month old dd who's dads seen her 3 times and has no interest in her. Am currently living alone but am seriously considering moving into my mums (dad passed away last year) for some support and company.

It is me and dd 24/7. I see friends or go to baby groups in the day but at night......some nights I just go to bed at 7 with dd as there's nothing to do. She is a bad sleeper at the moment so very little me time in the evening. It is so freaking lonely and no one to discuss/share dd with.

Gosh I sound like a right misery guts. So sending a hug here.

MySonIsMyWorld Sun 24-Feb-13 22:15:26

Hugs to everyone on this post....
Just remember our babies will love us a whole lot more because we have ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS been there......

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