No contact at all Balia. Feeling a bit more positive today - have started sowing the seeds about lots of special things to do on Christmas Eve and am going to book a lovely Santa Trip for the weekend before. He has them for a few hours tomorrow so will see how they are when they come home.
Still, I guess at least you can prepare lots of interesting and exciting days - the first Xmas after I split from DD's Dad he (repeatedly) promised her he would be there on Christmas Eve - only to ring me the day before to say he couldn't make it and could I tell her, he would put a present in the post.
Is it worth a shame-inducing email to ask if he understands how distressed the children will be and what a negative impact it will have on his relationship with them?