I?m a lone parent. My dd is 2.6 so I?m full time looking after her. My dd?s dad lives abroad so we never see him (are in good contact though) ? (reason I?m telling you this is because I know a lot of single mums have a break when dad has contact.) I am very, very lucky in that I have a good group of friends who are willing to babysit, and my parents are a bus ride away and also willing to babysit. I also have a boyf, which is fantastic although of course it does present complications of its own.
Most of the time I am fine, fairly content although constantly tired of course! , I enjoy my time with dd, I enjoy my evenings to myself and my relationship with my boyf is going great.
But sometimes I just can?t get my head around the fact that if I want to do anything for myself, I have to arrange for someone to babysit (and I suffer from terrible guilt about it). When I start thinking like that, I feel so trapped with nowhere to turn and of course this is going to be for years to come! No weekends or holidays to look forward to (for myself I mean).
I?m sure loads of you out there feel the same way and are also in harder situations than me but just wondering, how do you deal with that trapped feeling? ?do you ever get used to it? And does going to work help? I am considering going to work part time, though I was going to wait until dd has her free nursery place. Does it help by giving you a break from children or does it just make life more complicated esp re child care/money etc? And perhaps you feel just as trapped cos after all you HAVE to go to work it?s not like you?re doing your own thing! Plus if I ended up with a job I hated I would be so miserable knowing that I could have been continuing to spend that time with dd! Would appreciate all your experiences/thoughts.
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Dealing with that trapped feeling - and does working help?
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bourneville · 09/02/2006 17:36
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