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ScouseBird8364 Tue 08-Jul-14 12:45:40

Has anybody any experience of a husband or partner having had a Stroke and if so, what have the consequences been and how have you learned to adapt and cope?

My hubby had one in 2012, aged 48, but almost 2 years down the line, I'm feeling very sad as I feel I've lost my man sad

throckenholt Tue 08-Jul-14 19:14:42

no personal experience - but didn't want to leave you alone. 48 is so young sad

DFIL had a stroke - and I think the mental changes are less obvious than the physical ones - but much harder to come to terms with.

DSIL had a stroke 6 months ago - still not clear what the prognosis is.

Can you get any support locally or from the stroke charities ?

ComradePlexiglass Tue 08-Jul-14 19:23:06

Hi Scouse. My partner (46) had a stroke 5 months ago so it's very early days for us. Have you had any counselling? I'm thinking of getting some soon. It's such a life changing thing. How has it affected your husband?

ScouseBird8364 Tue 08-Jul-14 21:33:45

Comrade, I'm so sorry to hear that, I can obvs completely empathise thanks

Was your husband left with physical or mental deficits, or both? Initially, in the hospital for the first few weeks, my hub had peripheral vision, and was also left very weak on one side of his body. Thankfully, his vision returned to normal, however his long lasting effects are mental / psychological and I feel like I have completely lost the man I married sad

We didn't have an option for counselling, however hub still sees a Clinical Psychologist who specialises in Strokes. We did seek support from The Stroke Association, but we do not rate them at all, in fact, all we got from them was false hope sad

How are you coping? Have you had to come out of work to care for him? x x

ScouseBird8364 Tue 08-Jul-14 21:35:13

Thankyou throckenholt, appreciate that smile

And you're completely right re the mental as opposed to the physical, this is what my hubby is still fighting to come to terms with sad x x

ComradePlexiglass Tue 08-Jul-14 22:13:02

He's walking with a stick now. Slow and wobbly but very proud of No use of right arm at all and really severe speech and communication problems. Can't really speak at all though practising a few single words and uses an iPad communication programme. It's been massively disabling but it's still fairly early days. And despite it all I still have the sense that he's the same person inside. He has the same sense of humour and his understanding is basically still there despite the struggle to speak. That said, we had a kind of honeymoon period for a couple of weeks after his discharge from hospital- he was in for 4 months- and the reality of how much things have changed and how disabled he is is only just sinking in in some ways.

Did your husband's stroke affect his left side? I think I read somewhere that left sided strokes can affect mood and emotions more. Has he been able to return to work? How is he with your kids? Such a shame you can't get any help and support. sadangry Are there any carers organisations near you? I''ve heard some of them offer counselling as well as other support.

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