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Can anyone help with prostate cancer?

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Nornironmum Mon 11-Feb-13 20:07:17

My dad is 55, I am his only family my mum and him divorced a long time ago, I have an older brother but they don't talk.
I have always been very close to him, he really is the first love of my life. He has been sick for a while but went for tests before Xmas
He had a PSA test his score was very high not sure what though
He then had an ultrasound, he has a painful lump on the prostrate anyhow and this was seen in the ultrasound.
He then had another PSA score was even higher and he had a biopsy the same day. He was told this was either prostrate cancer or prostatits, and which is non cancerous. If it was the latter they would post the results to him or his GP, but the likely hood was prostrate cancer with such high PSA.
He got a letter to say an appointment has been made for him with the specialist urologist for next week and to bring a friend or relative with him.
Is there any chance this is just a standard letter? I know I'm clinging to hope, because if it was the other thing surely he wouldn't need a follow up appointment with urologist and would just go to his GP?
I'm really scared I've never been more scared in my life really. He is not a great talker and is in a lot of pain abc is getting pissed off at me ringing him all the time.
Is there any chance this is not cancer? He is so young, but it does run in his family, not prostrate but many other types.
Thanks for any help I really am terrified.

fedupandtired Tue 12-Feb-13 09:35:35

Obviously you need to wait for the results but even if it is prostate cancer it's very treatable. My FIL had it two years ago, had a course of radiotherapy and has been fine ever since. Try not to worry.

titchy77 Fri 15-Feb-13 20:57:38

Hi sorry you are going through this. My dad has recently been diagnosed with prostate cancer, he had a high psa reading but also very enlarged prostate. It could be the latter & if it is bad news prostate cancer is very treatable. Sorry I can't be much help but wanted to answer your post as i know it can be a very worrying time. X

SageMist Fri 15-Feb-13 21:58:51

My Dad was diagnosed with Prostate Cancer at age 75, over 5 years ago.
He had surgery, and now has hormone treatment (don't know what or how often as he doesn't say), and the cancer is largely gone, and certainly under control. A friend of Dad's has lived quite happily for about 12 years after diagnosis, with next to no treatment.

So it depends, its supposed to one of the more treatable cancers, especially if caught early.

I found the leaflets given out by the hospital helpful to understand the treatment options, please ask for them.

Nornironmum Tue 19-Feb-13 20:10:50

Thanks for the help. Today dad was told he has inoperable advanced prostate cancer. He is starting hormone treatment tomorrow. That's all they can offer him. I'm just very shocked he is only 55.
Thanks for helping

Nornironmum Tue 19-Feb-13 20:11:57

Thanks for the help. Today dad was told he has inoperable advanced prostate cancer. He is starting hormone treatment tomorrow. That's all they can offer him. I'm just very shocked he is only 55.
Thanks for helping

titchy77 Thu 21-Feb-13 16:11:37

I'm so sorry to hear this. My dad has advanced/inoperable too & is on hormone patches. He is doing really well, it does have its side effects but his psa is back to 0. We just hope that when the hormones stop working they'll be something else available. If your dad can/ wants to, to sign up for clinical trials as there's always a chance they will discover a drug to beat this disease. X

littlemefi Thu 21-Feb-13 18:06:27

Sorry to hear this, my dad was diagnosed with prostate cancer 10 years ago and had surgery successfully. He did have access to a urology specialist nurse and has since joined a prostate cancer support group.
I know it's not the same scenario as your dad, but maybe finding out more information and some local support would be useful for you both.

misshoohaa Fri 22-Feb-13 20:17:43

Hi Norniron hope you are OK. There's a heap of things that your dad can do, despite saying it's inoperable please don't be disheartened. My husband works in the cancer survivorship field and has seen many patients who despite being given bad news have come through the otherside and managed a very long happy life, living with cancer.

Hope you are doing OK. xx

Hi, my dad was also diagnosed with inoperable advanced prostate cancer in his mid fifties . He had hormone treatment as well.

There may be drug trials that your dad can be part of. Later my dad was given palliative radiotherapy, this helped with the pain.

My dad was very down when he was diagnosed and looking back the one thing i would do differently is take more care and have been more involved with pushing for support for his mental health. He was prescribed AD's at a late stage, they made a huge difference to him. I wish he had been prescribed them earlier.

Hope you and everyone else on this thread with family member with prostate cancer is coping as well as can be.

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lindamoss674 Thu 04-Apr-13 11:46:24

It depends on which stage your prostate cancer is. If it at the early stage beta sitosterol supplement can be really useful.

Summer115 Wed 10-Apr-13 06:45:13

Sorry to hear this. Hope your father will be ok.

coocachoo Wed 26-Mar-14 16:39:07

my husband has recently been diagnosed with prostate cancer we are all very scared i just cried when we were told so matter of factly that he had it its a shock we have a 15yr old and shes so unsure of her future or ours as we are 6o and 56 its horrible he has to have op but is overweight so has to lose some first we are all so lost.

coocachoo Wed 26-Mar-14 16:41:24

my dh is also very depressed and convinced he will die despite us trying to reasure him all the time plus we moved to seaside 10 months ago as he retired some retirement they say this happens didnt think it would happen to us so please everyone dont leave everything till too late remember health more imp than wealth. xx

Elibean Mon 14-Apr-14 14:30:19

Sorry to hear of all the diagnoses, whether of dhs or dads...

My dad had prostate cancer 7 years ago, aged 80. It was treated with radiotherapy implant, as it hadn't spread - and he is absolutely fine now. A year of tiredness/intermittent bowel problems during treatment, but really manageable even at his age and no sign of it since.

My uncle was also diagnosed aged 79, but not early on, sadly. He has had several years of good health on hormone injections alone, but it is in his bones so eventually he needed more treatment - he has had two sorts of new drugs, and one of them suited him very very well: he had nearly a year of being reasonably well on it, and is now 85. Its not working anymore, but I wanted to mention him because it really IS worth pushing for newer drugs with advanced prostate cancers - if you don't have health insurance, there are cancer charities that will provide the drugs to patients that meet the criteria, even if they are not yet available widely on the NHS.

I know several dads of friends who have had prostate cancer in their 50s and early 60s and are very well now - so if it hasn't spread, it really IS very treatable.

coocachoo Fri 18-Apr-14 17:13:33

Thank you Elibean that has given me some hope it is my husband he is 60 so they say young, but its scary just the word cancer, and seems to be on all the adverts. His reading was 8.5 psa then 7.5 which is quite high. He is opting for surgery which isnt easy but i just hope it hasnt spread to his bones, he had a bone scan last thurs. He just blanks me and sits thinking all day i just wish he wd speak but he says what can u do which is true. By way he has lost 6lb for op so far.

MrsSlocombesPussy Fri 18-Apr-14 17:29:40 have lots of useful information

Elibean Fri 18-Apr-14 23:32:06

All fingers crossed for a clear scan, coocoocachoo, he's bound to be scared and depressed right now - my dad certainly was, and (like many men!) didn't talk about it till he felt safe again. But once treatment starts, and he gets some sense of control back, he'll almost certainly feel better.

It really is a treatable disease if caught early enough. Hope you get news soon, xx

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