This morning right as we were walking out the door to School and Work my 12 year old son asked me to sit down and he took both my hands and said 'mummy you know I will always love you no matter what' (this is how I always start tough conversations with him) and I said yes I do, what's up - I could tell he was nervous and he said 'I think, NO I know I'm gay' I took him in my arms, I was lost for words, I said 'Thank you for telling me, I really love you and I will always love you so much' then we just hugged and I told him again how much I loved him, I really did not know what else to say and I really did not want to say the wrong thing to him, so we then just went about getting out the door - as I was dropping him off I asked him if we could chat later when we all got home and he agreed.
I then cried all the way to work and am still crying - I don't think I'll get much done today (I'm in the US so not yet 8am). Not because he's gay I know enough gay people who are happy and fulfilled with life - but I also know the battles they have had to fight and the struggles they have had and I am scared for him people can be so cruel.
12 seems so very young to even be thinking about boys or girls - although intellectually I know that sexuality is something that forms in each person before we are born but emotionally I'm still struggling with how does he even know.
I don't want to say the wrong thing when we talk tonight do any of you know a good website or book that you would recommend for me to get information that could help me pull myself together and point me in the right direction
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GenerationX2 · 02/02/2015 15:11
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