False accusations? Lies and contact

[Benwal]

I'm going to lay it all out and I'm also aware I need legal advice, I feel it's also good to get perspective in what to expect from others who may have been through something similar.

Since the beginning of match my health had a nasty turn, being admitted to hospital twice within one week mid march with suspected heart attack. Luckily it wasn't either time.

Anyway this led to me stopping smoking after 25 years of it. My (ex) partner, a wonderful mum I should say if not a tad over protective at times, also found this quite a stressful time, and her health deteriorated a bit too with a possible stomach ulcer.
My health left me very weak, tired and stuck unable to do very much for a couple of weeks, and coupled with the cold turkey cessation I became rather difficult at times.
This also left my partner in the position if doing most of the stuff with our 15 mo daughter, although if my condition was up to it I would lend my hand as much as it would allow.
Understandably this put a massive strain in us both and we'd have the odd snipe at each other over insignificant things like why did I leave a dirty bowl on that worktop in the kitchen instead of this part, or why didn't she let me know the Hoover needed declogging... And so on, petty things.

Anyway not to drag this on too far, it all came to a head the other week after probably one of our best days in a while. She brought something up she'd hidden from me for a while and I mention it hurt that she's chosen to not trust me to tell me that while ago - no argument yet. She wasn't happy that I felt hurt and was rather dismissive if it, and brought up stuff she felt hurt over and so it spiralled into an argument. A rathe massive shouting match infact that was not really about anything in particular just all that stress if the past month breaking I think.
It ended up that I wanted to leave the house for a walk so as to not argue, calm Down and allow her to too. Which is where things turned truly stupid.
Initially she wouldn't let me through out the bedroom door to get my coat (10pm at night) so I asked her in a shouty way let me get my f-in coat. She opened the door only to slam it straight in my face the moment I went to step forwards, I tried to push it open again at which point she did exactly the same again - slammed it purposefully in my face hard. This time I shouted and punched the door.
Our baby woke up so she picked her up to settle her whilst I took that opportunity to grab my coat to leave.
My partner then started threatening me not to leave and if I went out in the car she'd call the police to stop me because in her opinion I was so angry I was not safe to drive, I shouted back at her I'm going regardless and she threatened the police again so I took the car key off my keys and threw it in the floor ready to walk out. She threatened to call the police yet again.
At this point I went downstairs to get my phone and call my mother to see if she was up so I could spend the night there.
My partner came downstairs with our daughter in her arms and we had a bit more of an argument but not shouting anywhere near like we had at each other. We spent about 20-30 mins actually talking things out, and although we were both obviously upset it felt like we'd actually talked and got beyond arguing. She went upstairs to resettle our daughter (breast fed for bed)
5 mins later the police arrive! She'd actually called them!
One went up to her and another with me. Asking us both what's happened seperately. I gave the officer with me the story I've just told here, ultimately it was a stupid verbal argument. The officer with my partner confirmed with my officer that she'd said exactly the same. Essentially a stupid verbal argumrnt.
According to the officers the policy for their force is to seperate the individuals regardless as a precaution. So I volunteerd to leave, got some stuff together for an evening in my mothers and off I went.
My mother wasn't up so I stayed in a friends.

Anyway, I text my patterns after getting to the friends "don't know if you'll be there in the morning when I come home? " and got no response.
Next morning I text her asking if she's ok this morning and is it ok to come home now. The response I got surprised me tbh, she hadn't been there all night!

Since then she's been in her mothers house and hasn't been back once other than to collect all her stuff. She asked me two days after leaving could she come get her stuff to move out, no other communication. I said my son is over (he's 11) and that as she's in her parents and I really couldn't face leaving the house due to some anxiety attacks could she wait 24hours until he's gone so he doesn't have to witness that. She was rather aggressive tbh and said our daughter had nothing, no clothes no nappies etc. Bear in mind she had no reason to leave on the night I did, and even though she chose to she had no rush to whatsoever, so I didn't undestand why she didn't pack a couple if bags then?
Anyway I suggested that being as we had savings here and she was in her parents, to borrow some money from her dad to see her and our daughter through the 24 hours my son was here and then come pick her stuff up and also the savings money too.
Two hours later I get a call from the police being quite stern in saying my partner needs to get her stuff, I relayed to the PC exactly my suggestion of waiting until my son had gone and money from her parents etc.
He agreed that was reasonable and that I should pack all her stuff up ready for her to get it the next day when's son had gone. As much as it's one of the hardest things I ever had to do I packed her stuff up for her and left it by the from door the next evening so as to make it easy as possible.
They didn't turn up due to not enough police, instead thy arrived without warning at 10am the next day.
She picked all her stuff up and our daughters too, the officer with her asked her has she got everything? Does she need any baby stuff and so on. She said she thought she had everything, at this pint I said if there's anything outstanding I'll get a mutual friend to drop it off later that week or the next.
She left with a parting snipe of "you couldn't even give our daughter her things she needed yesterday, all I asked for was an hour!"
The officer shhh'd her. Closed
Te front door, locked it and posted the key.

Couple of hours later I get a text message that's a list of stuff missing. Now this list is stuff like her shampoo, body wash, toothpaste etc.
Stuff for my daughter like some toys - I packed up half the toys for her I take when she came to get te stuff, I need toys here too for whn my daughter comes to visit.
And weirdly clothes too, even though I've honestly checked everywhere there isn't any of her clothes left here. I really did pack everything up. Along with all our savings of £100 too, so body wash? Really?

Anyway, the whole week I've only contacted her each day asking purely "when will our daughter get time with me?" And nothing more whatsoever.
I also contacted mediation as a matter of course incase things weren't going to get solved between us in our daughter seeing me.
I had no response at all. Until this morning when a solicitors letter arrived.

It states that due to the unpleasant incident (the argument) it's resulted in my partner returning to live with her parents and with my daughter.
My partner doesn't consider mediation suitable because of the incident in which she called the police "for assistance" - remember now she told me she was calling them to stop me leaving! Anyway she will not be attending mediation.

Supposedly he has also been advised by the police, health visitor (we haven't had one in months and months) and wimens aid (wth??) not to agree any contact with my daughter until social services have assessed the incident!

I m flabbergasted and distraught to say the least. We had a stupid shouting match that was genuinely 6 of one half a dozen of the other, equally as bad and stupid as each other. Nobody was violent other than her slamming the door on me and me hitting the door (not even hard enough to make a mark on me or it)
Nobody was arrested or anything.

So all I can assume is she's making up some BS to really make things hard as hell for our daughter to have time with me.

I have a couple of questions.
Will SS be in touch with me as part if their investigation or will they only take her side and leave me hanging waiting for them to make a one sides report?

What the hell have women's aid got involved for?

And what can I do to make things easier and get to see my daughter?

I know I need a solicitor after getting this letter, I will be first thing Monday morning. However anyone with any advice, it would be greatly appreciated.

As an example if how competent a dad I am my sons mother and I have been split 10 years and not once has she ever had cause or concern with him spending time with me, in fact he's with me half of each week and half if all holidays, alternate Christmases and so on. So why the hell are SS suddenly involved over nothing? And what can I do to help defend myself from something that's obviously a false allegation of something?