Please help. Divorcing. Irretrievable breakdown. Is this statement sufficient?

[Antoniabegonia]

We still live in the same house but separate lives. My H is abusive but I don't want to put this in the statement as I am paying for the divorce and want it to go as smoothly as possible and not antagonise him.

My husband and I have not been happy for at least 10 years. We do not share a bedroom and have had no physical contact for that time. We have had separate bank accounts for several years. We buy and cook our meals separately. We do our own washing. We do not socialise together. We have completely different social and political ideas and we argue frequently about this and issues like housework. This bad atmosphere is affecting our health and I feel increasingly depressed living with my husband

Tia

[MsAnthropic]

Are you in England?

[Collaborate]

That's evidence the marriage is over, but you need to prove one of the 5 facts. I presume you're alleging unreasonable behaviour. You need to say in what way he's behaved unreasonably. I think your petition would get refused when you apply for decree nisi.

[mumblechum1]

Sounds like the OP is going on 2 years separation.

OP, you will need, as Collaborate says, to beef this up if you're going on UB.

You should also use numbered paragraphs.

Eg:

1. The Respondent has for many years [insert general behaviour you don't like]
   

1. On [insert at least 2 specific incidents of unreasonable behaviour, eg on 1st June 2014 the Respondent did [x] specific act/said [x] specific nasty thing, which caused the petitioner to feel [y]
   

1. The parties have lived as separately as possible since [specific date] and the Petitioner considers that the marriage has irretrievably broken down
   

as an absolute minimum.

[Antoniabegonia]

We are in England.

Thanks so much. I will beef it up for sure!

I hate having to say that he's been abusive but I can easily state 2 recent occasions of verbal and physical abuse. I think UB is what I am going for as we do share the bills in the house despite separate lives in other ways.

I'll look into those 5 facts.

It's absurd that when two adults say they can't even be in the same room together they have to jump through a lot of hoops to end a marriage.

[mumblechum1]

The other option may be 2 years separation with your husband's consent. You don't necessarily have to live in separate buildings, as long as you have been living separately for the last 2 years.

[Antoniabegonia]

Thanks I will check online to see if we fit the criteria. I know it may be difficult if we are not fully separated as we do pay bulls jointly but everything else is separated.

UB ... Maybe this will fit the criteria?

^1. My husband has for many years had very strong political views centred around nationalism and has recently been receiving solicited right wing literature. I am very upset by his constant nationalist references.

1. On .......the respondent knocked a cup of hot tea out of my hand following an argument about my leaving the dishwasher door open. I felt very upset by this.
   
2. Throughout our marriage the respondent has done very little housework despite my working and him not working for many years. Since my retirement this has continued and I am very resentful of this, especially as I spend a large part of my time looking after my disabled grandson.
   
3. For at least 10 years the respondent and I have not shared a bedroom or had physical contact. We have separate bank accounts and cook for ourselves and do our own washing. We live separate lives and do not socialise. Living like this is causing me to become depressed.
   

5 the respondent has always spent a lot of time and money on hobbies and this continues to this day. He has left me on my own which I found distressing^

I won't put he is a rabid racist, lazy, violent, selfish and self centred

[Collaborate]

Looks enough to me.

[Antoniabegonia]

Thanks