what now?

[talullah57]

H’s affair has been going on in our village for past 3 years. He admitted it at our first pseudo Relate meeting. I say pseudo because all he did for a whole hour was talk about himself and how he had ‘fallen into the arms of another woman’. At that meeting last October, Relate therapist asked whether he had finished the relationship, he said yes. She asked how? He said by email. She asked him what did she respond? He said he didn’t know as he had blocked her telephone/email details. I sat there knowing he was lying but hoping he wasn’t. He is paying this OW a lot of money, a lot of money per month, or even a couple of times per month.
I saw a solicitor who has asked him to financially disclose. He hasn’t. But he has decided now to get a solicitor who has replied and told me to start looking after myself financially.
I would love to speak to someone who knows where I may stand legally. I am so damned tired and getting little sleep.
I’m sorry if this is vague but I am knackered.

[MooseBeTimeForSpring]

Well in terms of negotiating a settlement the money he has paid to her needs to be totalled up and added back into the pot of assets to be divided.

[Collaborate]

Not necessarily Moose.

OP there is no substitute for getting this important advice from your solicitor. Make another appointment to see them.