But of a long one so bear with me..
XP and I were together 13 years in total,have one DS aged 9. We moved in together when I was 8 months pregnant and once we had DS we got into some debt and basically along with some other issues we moved into my mums house with her and my 2 younger siblings.
After 3 years we decided to get a joint mortgage with my mum and as he only had £35,000 left to pay in her mortgage we could pay her ex partner to come off the mortgage and pay off our debts and hers. A verbal agreement was decided that XP would pay all the mortgage as my mum had paid off our debts and he was the main earner,and we would divide the bills between us.
Roll on to present day and XP and myself split up last February as he wanted to start a new relationship with someone else. When we split we wanted to remain amicable as it was in everyone's best interest. So he agreed to pay the full mortgage and no maintenance.
He now has decided he just wants to pay maintenance of £300 (as this is what the CSA would take from him?)
I have seen a solicitor who says that the maintenance and mortgage are 2 separate issues an he is liable for a third of the mortgage and maintenance. But he says his solicitor is saying because he doesn't live in the house legally he doesn't have to pay anything?!
My problem is this, myself and my mum who both still reside in the house will struggle to pay the full mortgage by ourselves .. We both work 16 hours a week as she takes care of my son while I work. My siblings both have weekend jobs as they are at college and so can contribute very little at the moment.
I don't expect him to pay the whole mortgage but think he should pay his third plus an amount to be discussed for maintenance.
Also I cannot afford a solicitor as my overtime that I earn occasionally affects my qualifying for legal aid!
I work in retail so overtime is drying up at the moment.
He has said he will pay one more mortgage payment and that's it
Any advice will be greatly appreciated,thankyou.
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L4dyluck · 20/01/2013 11:41
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