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Q&A with Christina Blacklaws, Director of family law at Co operative legal services - ANSWERS BACK

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RachelMumsnet (MNHQ) Wed 19-Sep-12 11:35:06

We're running a Q&A this week  with Christina Blacklaws, Director of Family Law at The Co-operative Legal Services. She's going to be taking  your questions and offering advice on all legal issues that affect the family, such as breaking up, getting together, children, financial issues and domestic abuse.
 
Christina has over 20 years experience in all aspects of family law. Prior to The Co-operative Legal Services, she founded and managed the largest specialist family law practice in London. She qualified as a solicitor in 1991 and is a higher rights advocate and solicitor specialising in complex child care cases. She is a Law Society Council member, Chair of the Society's Legal Affairs and Policy Board and Chief Assessor of the Children Panel.
 
Post your questions to Christina before the end of Tuesday 25 September and we'll link to the archived Q&A from this thread on 4 October.

This Q&A is sponsored by The Co-operative Legal Services

JigsawMum Sun 23-Sep-12 21:29:05

My DDs bioDad reduced his monthly payment unilaterally. I was trying to communicate with him via lawyers as he has no contact but He has 'disappeared' from all sources and I can't trace his businesses either. Best way to a) trace him and b) find out what he has done with his companies as I think he is 'hiding' resources as he now has 2 more kids. I also can't find out if DDs grandad is alive still as no longer on electoral roll. Thanks

trolls4us Mon 24-Sep-12 18:42:47

what level of address detail do you need to give when holidaying out of jurisdiction with children for a short holiday at a private residential address with no previous history of risk of flight etc....to ensure a PSO is not brought against you...is it enough to give city name and emergency telephone number and flight times or do you have to give actual street and house name ? DV involved in past

Caliente62 Mon 24-Sep-12 23:02:12

Indemnity question in a divorce. My husband's solicitor has added a condition to our financials that he requires an indemnity from me against any loss my ex may suffer if I lose our home by repossession. I am adamant that I will sign no such thing as I have struggled and paid the mortgage (interest only) since he stopped paying me any money 12 months ago. Why should his "investment" be indemnified when he has walked away leaving me in a position where I am paying the mortgage and would be the only one to lose out if I failed to keep up with the payments (through his lack of payment)? This is just one of the instances of me being left responsibility for our joint finances, to my cost. Please advise? Thank you.

ohnotanothernamechanger Tue 25-Sep-12 23:48:27

does one need to get residency after there has been violence and separation?
how recently does an incicent need to have happened to be considered for unreasonable behaviour?
does not seperating finances due to fear of being assaulted for trying to end tha marriage count against a victim in court cases/divorce preceedings?

NiniLegsInTheAir Fri 05-Oct-12 09:28:09

There's no link to the Q&A from here yet?

NettleTea Sat 06-Oct-12 21:55:16

I wondered this too Nini

ToothbrushThief Thu 11-Oct-12 20:03:03

I've been waiting as well??

RachelMumsnet (MNHQ) Fri 12-Oct-12 10:40:51

Apologies for the delay in getting the answers up. We'll be posting a link later today.

GeraldineMumsnet (MNHQ) Fri 12-Oct-12 14:50:27

Hello, thanks for your patience.

Here's the link to the answers from Christina Blacklaws.

olgaga Fri 12-Oct-12 18:40:36

Well I haven't been able to read it all yet but what I have managed to scan through is great! Many thanks to Christina, and to Mumsnet. I hope you'll give this Q&A the publicity it deserves.

I will certainly be linking to it frequently!

avenueone Fri 12-Oct-12 23:17:44

thanks for the link very useful.

PostBellumBugsy Mon 15-Oct-12 13:54:29

MNHQ - Please pass on my thanks to Christina for taking the time to answer my query. Much appreciated.

CremeEggThief Mon 15-Oct-12 17:43:57

thanks to Christina. Much appreciated.

Wittsend13 Tue 16-Oct-12 00:16:32

Thanks Christina x

NiniLegsInTheAir Tue 16-Oct-12 16:23:49

Just found this. Many thanks to Christina for answering my question smile [flowers]

NiniLegsInTheAir Tue 16-Oct-12 16:25:56

Whoops! thanks

Pagen Thu 25-Oct-12 16:32:52

Hi, my husband and I have talked about what we would like to happen to our two children should anything happen to the two of us. For reasons I won't go into I would prefer custody to go to a close friend of ours rather than any of the grandparents. My mum supports my decision but my husband is not convinced and would rather his father take custody.
Am I right in thinking that should anything happen to us both without leaving a will my mother would automatically take custody? If so could she then make the decision, assuming no one contests it, to pass custody to my friend?
Can I make a will expressing my preferences even if my husband oesnt put his name to it?
I know this may all sound a bit complicated but I am only thinking about what would be best for our children.
Many thanks

Collaborate Thu 25-Oct-12 17:21:50

You really need to start your own thread over this. Use the button near the top left of the page.

shyandquiet Fri 26-Oct-12 00:19:39

How much do the co- op pay for this thread?

lolo99 Sun 16-Dec-12 21:41:17

how do we access the reponses to this??

Georgiaandi Fri 30-May-14 09:59:55

Hi, My baby's dad and I are not together and we never was. We were 2 friends who want a baby. He always said that I will be looking after the baby and he will help us and come and visit as much as he can. Two days after I came home from hospital with my baby, I got the first letter from his solicitor demanding that I give my baby to him!! When my baby was 4 weeks old I had to go to court first time, in London at the Family Division of the High court. I live one hours away!! I am breastfeeding her on demand still. Since then I had another court hearing and on Monday another one. I cant afford a solicitor so I have been representing myself. It got too much now, I cant follow the legal rules, I am stressed, upset I cant sleep and I cant eat properly. All I want is to be left alone and to be able to fully enjoy my baby. I was given no opportunity to recover from child birth, I am all on my own, I have other 2 kids to look after too. He is bulling me, and I am so scared that his solicitor will do something to take my baby away from me. Everyone is telling me that this will not happen, but I am so scared because he has money to pay for solicitors and I have not.
I am trying to postpone the Monday hearing, I have a letter from GP to say that I am too stressed to attend court, but not sure if I can. This is the nightmare of my life.
He is saying that we agree that the will be the main carer of our baby, which is not true, but we have nothing on writing to confirm it one way or the other.

I had a solicitor who was looking at my paper work, saying that will take us on on a pro bono basis, then left us on the last minute. Now I try to postpone the Monday hearing, send paper work to the court but not heard from them since. I am afraid that the paper work will get l lost on the system and the judge will hold me on contempt. I am so desperate and do not what to do.....
So far the court are saying nothing, no evidence been presented, jut our statements. He want her name change, dose not want her christened on my religion..... so all this to be discussed in court.
They want the matter transferred to the high court too.
How on earth can I deal with all of this and with a new baby too??! No one is thinking about me, as a human being, as a mother and a full time carer for my baby.
My baby is the best baby in the world, she is doing so well, happy and I love her to bits.
I never stopped her dad to come and see her when he want too. He comes 6 times a week, for 3 hours at the time, takes her away and brings her back to me. She is 4 months old and fully breastfed.
Her dad runs 3 bossiness in South London, in Clapham area, so he has got the time and money to take me to court. He dose not give us any maintenance money, just buy her nappies when I ask him to.

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