Have name changed for this. This might be long but there's no point asking for advice if I'm not clear about what's going on.
I left my ex 2 years ago due to domestic violence. After going through the courts we now have joint residence (50/50) of our DS who is 7. This works well as, despite what happened between us, he is a good dad and our DS loves him.
I'm currently 20 weeks pregnant by my new partner. Due to me having both MH and physical health problems social services have become involved. They've been involved before and have always closed the case saying that they have no concerns. At the moment it looks like it's going to go this way again in respect of both my DS and the baby.
However, a few weeks ago my DS was on a school trip for 2 nights. On the first night my ex turned up at my door (he knows my address even though he shouldn't because social services accidentally disclosed it to him last year). Long story short - it ended up with him attacking and raping me. I've been to the sexual assault referral centre but have decided that for the time being I don't want police involvement.
The referral centre had to tell social services. I told the social worker I didn't want my ex to know that I'd told anyone as it'll just make things worse. I also told her that I don't want my current partner to know (he's away travelling) as he'll kill my ex (that's not an exaggeration). At first the social worker was fine about this but has since said that she's spoken to her manager and although she doesn't have to tell my partner she does have to tell my ex. She says that this is because of child protection and because he should have a chance to answer the allegation.
I have absolutely no idea what to do. Have been trying to get hold of my solicitor with no luck to see if there's any legal way I can stop them from telling him. If they tell him then it's going to make the situation worse and put me - and therefore the baby - at even more risk (so that makes it a child protection issue as well). Also, he wouldn't have known where to find me if they hadn't disclosed my address.
I guess what I'm asking is if anyone knows whether there's a legal way of stopping the?. And can anyone point me in the right direction for some legal advice (as I can't get hold of my solicitor)? I'm not entitled to legal aid but I'm about to get some money as my dad died recently so will have some money to pay. I'm really scared and don't know what to do from here.
Sorry this has been so long. Thanks for reading xx
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bagpuss1234 · 07/07/2012 17:43
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