I'm extremely unhappy that my 13-year old daughter was allowed by her Dad to have two 14 year old boys stay the night and sleep in her bedroom while she was at his house for the weekend. He has 2 weekends a month with the children; the rest of the time he lives abroad.
He has (I'm pretty sure) NPD, a record of nonexistent boundaries and almost no hands-on experience with the children, but he refuses to listen to me, says our daughter 'was cool' with it (! - when she came home to me she was confused and upset, and clearly shouldn't be making a decision like that at her age anyway. Plus it's now gone all round her school that her 'Dad's a Lad', which is horrible, damaging and upsetting), accuses me of 'judging others by my standards' (what...that it's not a good idea to get in a mess, underage and just 13?) and, refusing to pick up the phone, has now said he won't read any letter I send to him about it. I some time ago gave up attempts at mediation because he denied facts, lied and became very aggressive.
We have 50/50 access (English jurisdiction). Other than the two Friday/Saturday nights per month and three or four weeks holiday per year, I'm the primary carer/resident parent and I look after the children on my own fulltime. I don't want to stop the children seeing their Dad at all, but I must know he's behaving responsibly and keeping them safe.
Previously the same daughter has found sex toys in the house, porn DVDs and - all this totally unprompted - says she regularly hears him and his girlfriend having sex at night. To me, this is abuse. What can I do? Please - any advice really gratefully received.
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tsunami · 18/01/2012 16:36
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