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Being able to take my child to live in the UK

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JustaNickname · 18/02/2011 20:38

Hi everyone I posted on here before Christmas because my was taking me to court to stop me moving from Ireland to England. He was mentally abusive and once was psychically abusive. He also has a drink problem and is now banned from driving after being caught by the police twice. Our son will be four this April and the first time he has ever financially contributed towards the up bringing of our son was January of this year. Unfortunately when we had out court case in November the judge (who was the same judge my ex had for BOTH of his court case's) ruled that that my ex should now be given joint custody with primary psychical custody given to me. This also meant that to be able to take my son out of the country I would have to have my ex's permission. I decided that the right thing to do would be to appeal the case. We went back to court this month and thankfully this time the second judge listened to what I had to say as the last time they weren't interested at all and my ex's drink problem only seemed to gain him sympathy. The judge ruled that Myself and my son should be able to move to England and thats what we will be doing in August. I had lost all faith in the legal system after the first court hearing but thankfully now it has been restored. I just wanted to post this so others that are in the same position will be given some hope. I really hope that this has helped at least one person.

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perfectstorm · 18/02/2011 20:39

I'm really, really glad to hear that, and just sorry you've had such a terrible time of it.

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JustaNickname · 18/02/2011 20:51

Thanks so much for your kind comment :) Its been tough. I'm only 21 and had my son at such a young age but I feel confident that I did the right thing.

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Resolution · 19/02/2011 10:49

Well done for sticking at it and not taking matters in to your own hands

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JustaNickname · 19/02/2011 13:41

Thank you, I was very tempted to do a runner after I lost the first case but I knew that would be no kind of life for my son.

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Bucharest · 19/02/2011 13:44

That's good news! I think I remember your other thread.

Happy for you and your son!

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twopeople · 19/02/2011 13:51

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ElsieMc · 20/02/2011 18:26

I am very pleased for you. Sadly, we lost our case as the Judge was very sympathetic to ex-P, despite his drink driving issues, assaults on children and continual criminal damage convictions.

I decided not to appeal as I felt I could not face a further verbal beating up by the Judge in our case. I was wrong. You were right and are braver than me.

Good luck to you and your little one.

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JustaNickname · 21/02/2011 22:59

Thanks everyone :)

ElsieMc I wish I could give you a big hug :( I had a lot of support from my parents and sister. If it wasn't for them I couldn't have faced it either. I'm not brave at all I just didn't realize at the time how stressful it would be. I really feel for you and from what you've said the judge's decision sounds exactly like how the judge acted in my original case :(