Hi everyone
Firstly please forgive me if this is the wrong place to post this, I'm new to Mumsnet and still learning.
I am 16 weeks pregnant, and apart from a very few, no-one knows about the pregnancy yet. We're planning to tell most people after my 20 week scan, however we're not going to make a big song and dance about it or put things on social media etc. I have Asperger syndrome and I find it difficult sometimes to know the right thing to say or do, but I always try my best and have learnt a lot over the years. I always mean well.
Please could you offer me some advice about how to sensitively tell:
Our friends, a couple who have recently (about 6 weeks ago) had a second IVF attempt that failed.
My aunt and uncle, who are in their early 50s and have experienced infertility issues for years.
Clearly our friends are very upset by the failed IVF attempts, but we talk with them openly about their experience and feelings about this. I believe they are as accepting and balanced as they can be in the situation. We see them fairly often and have a close relationship with them.
We don't see my aunt and uncle all that often, but we get on with them well. My uncle is as accepting as he can be about the situation, but my aunt struggles to come to terms with it. She avoids spending time with children and easily upset by any baby news.
Again I won't pretend I know how people feel or how they'll react. However, based on what I've seen and things they've said, I believe our friends will genuinely be pleased for us but it will upset them too because of their own situation, but I feel my aunt in particular will find the news very hard to take.
I'd like to tell them sensitively but I also don't want to make too big a thing of it, if you know what I mean. It is getting to the point now where it will soon be obvious so now's the time to plan how to tell them. I know they will likely be upset whatever I say or do but I want to try and do the right thing.
Any help or advice would be appreciated.
Thank you so much
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Telling infertile friends and family about pregnancy
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UrbanYokel93 · 18/05/2016 09:10
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