We have been granted NHS funding for IVF and are keen to use it, seeing as the money is there waiting for us, rather than spending ££££s on private treatment...
However, we are having a very difficult time trying to actually use the NHS. It's been a total nightmare so far! They are in such a state of disarray, their admin is all over the place and we are constantly being dicked around and let down. This is even before we've had our initial NHS consultation! We were first held up by a wrongly dated letter, then referred to the wrong hospital (we weren't told until a day before our appointment and then had to wait another month to get an appointment at the correct hospital), then we tried TWICE to get our preliminary blood tests done, which apparently we need to get done before our consultation, but were twice turned away because the NHS's 'new and improved' admin systems can't process our details.... wasting time we'd booked off work, and delaying the whole process, causing us much distress and frustration.
In the meantime, we've spent £150 to have a private consultation so we could get on with having some of our burning questions answered, and they were absolutely amazing. We only had to wait a couple of weeks for an appointment, and their embryologist kindly saw us for a free, informal consultation in the meantime :)
Throughout this process so far - which began in July - we've only been able to get useful and timely information and be treated like human beings by paying for it.
My experience so far would suggest that whatever the clinical similarities between NHS and private, continuing with private treatment would take away so much of the stress... whereas with the NHS, you have the added emotional torment on top of everything else of being constantly dicked around because admin-wise, they don't seem to know what the hell they are doing. We've had to phone, chase and correct people, re-complete forms and tests we've already done, and be passed from pillar to post and it still feels like we're barely making progress.
Going private will basically make us poor, we will have to scrape the money together somehow and it's going to be financially quite crippling for us, which is the last thing you need when you're trying to start a family.... yet we've had a taste of how amazing and relatively stress-free their service is, and the vast difference between our private and our NHS experiences makes it very tempting...
I've heard that with the NHS, once you are 'in the system' properly, it all goes much more smoothly. But trying to get in the system in the first place is stressing us out so much! In the meantime, I'm not getting any younger...
Sorry for the rant, it helps to get it off my chest a bit...
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IVF experience so far: NHS vs private = BIG difference
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PegPeg · 24/11/2015 13:05
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