This is an AIBU, but I'm feeling pretty crappy and can't face posting there. We've been trying for 18 months, and are starting to go down the route of fertility testing etc. I have possible endometriosis so it's likely to be complicated.
DP was given his referral and cup for SA 4 months ago but has still not done it! They won't start my tests before they have his results, which means that I am in a lot of pain each month with the endo, which is getting worse, and I can't make an decisions about treatment or surgery until we know the situation fertility wise (if it is male factor then I could take hormonal treatment for the endo while we save up for ivf)
Last night I snapped and told him that I'm not having sex with him until he does his sperm analysis, since he has to be abstinent for a few days beforehand and won't discuss when he plans to do it. I know it's scary etc, and infertility is miserable for both of us, but this is ridiculous.
So now he's not speaking to me saying I am withdrawing intimacy and being unfair, and I am really upset that he doesn't seem to be taking this seriously. He says he really wants a baby, is a really lovely man, has been very upset by our repeated negative tests, so why is he being so crap?
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So frustrated with partner, am I being unreasonable?
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Glabella · 19/08/2014 10:42
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