[deep breath] We've decided to HE and take ds out of school -advice please

[pofacedandproud]

We've decided to do it. He's in is first term in reception right now. Since he started he is exhausted, manic, withdrawn and increasingly having screaming scenes at home in the morning pleading with me not to go. I had agreed for him to do half days with the head but the class teacher was not happy and said he should do full days. He reads fluently and we play maths games at home anyway. He had two days at home this week due to tummy ache and he became the relaxed jokey giggly boy I know again. We know some He'ers from the local group, and there aren't a huge number in his age group unfortunately, but we'll try to meet as many as we can. My question is this, do I just write a letter to the head mistress and tell her what we're doing? I suppose I should wait until the end of term? Any advice? Parents at school will think I'm nutty of course...

[pofacedandproud]

oh and another question. If he wants to return to school next year, can he go back to the same one or with the headmistress be furious with us?

[pofacedandproud]

is a dereg letter to the head?

[AMumInScotland]

Yes - dereg letter to the head. You don't need to go into the detail of why you;re doing it, but you can if you want.

Legally he can go back to the same school if they have spaces - on the same basis as he would if he had never been there before. The head may or may not feel personally offended, and you may or may not care what she thinks!

If you want to make the process "easier", then I'd suggest keeping the dereg letter fairly short but polite, and say you think he's not ready for school, rather than aying they've handled it badly. But up to you whether you think they need told!

[Stayingsunnygirl]

Are you in touch with Education Otherwise, pofaced? My friend HE'd her dd1 and is now He'ing dd2, and has had a lot of support, encouragment and help from her local EO people.

[pofacedandproud]

In touch with local HE group, think I got it through EO. Yes good point AMIS about keeping it short.

[pofacedandproud]

wish i could just take him out now but I'm supposed to be doing music at the school for christmas.