Deregging and panicking a bit!

[daisychain76]

Hello, I posted on here a bit ago when I was thinking about home ed. Well, after plenty of thought and lots of chats to my dc, one is deregging tomorrow and the other has chosen to stay at school! Perhaps not ideal as it means we as still tied to the school routine, but the idea is we will reassess after the summer term.

Anyway, have told the head and teacher. Not really telling other parents, will just contact a couple whose children DC is close friends with over the next week or so, keeping it all low key. Have got some nice stuff planned already and lots of family support.

Despite all this, suddenly feel completely panicked! Keep thinking about the good stuff about school, panicking DC will be lonely, thinking about whether he will have gaps in his education and so on.

Is it normal to feel like this and question your decision so much?!

[FavadiCacao]

Hi Daisy,
It was for us over five years ago. The night before deregg'ing was quite scary and the day of deregg'ing was even worse. It's only natural to question such a big step but remember that your child can always go back to school if HE is not suitable for him/her. Is also not to late to maybe write down the pro and cons and the reasons that are making you choose HE. How did the Head teacher react? (Is there a cooling off period now?)

[daisychain76]

Hi fav thanks for answering. The head was fine, probably quite surprised. His teacher seemed quite supportive. I have to hand in the formal letter next. I have been reassuring myself with the fact it doesn't have to be permanent if it doesn't work out for us as a family, so really I don't understand why I feel quite so scared! I suppose because there are no major issues with school it just feels like an enormous step.

[FavadiCacao]

With Easter is round the corner, would you feel better to postpone handing in the official dereg letter until after the holidays to give you a little extra time to think?

[daisychain76]

I think l may do that fav as the holiday will remind me why l am doing this (more quality time together creating memories and so on).

[Nigglenaggle]

Good luck Daisy, hope it is all you hope!

[morethanpotatoprints]

Hello Daisy.

It was normal for us too, we were ever so panicky to begin with.
I went full steam ahead to begin with and found that I needed to pace myself better, within the first 2 weeks.
my best advice is not to be in a hurry, they learn so much in such a short space of time.
Good luck and keep posting.

[daisychain76]

Thanks niggle and morethan. Am l right in thinking you were considering HE niggle? I think l could easily go at it full steam morethan as l am that sort of person. Keep reminding myself learning should be fun and relaxed

[Purplefi]

I was going to say similar about gaps in education. Children at school have gaps too. Everyone has gaps in their knowledge and education.You may find how you look at a school changes as time goes on.
Initially you think about the gaps, but when your child at home covers an area in more depth than they could at school because you can give them time to not rush on to next topic or they want to cover something not in the national curriculum because they're interested in it now, not in two years time when it's covered.
There is a sudden moment when you see lots of gaps in a school environment too.

[MinimMum]

Have name changed, but you'll work it out I hope.

I too would like to agree with Purplefi

The joy seeing them totally immersed in something, going in depth and the love they have of learning.
For me I could have cried when dd said I want to do some reading and writing and although I'm not into levels, I'm sure she jumped a full level in a manner of a few weeks.
They don't always find a lifelong love of learning at school and sometimes h.ed can be the answer.
My own personal opinion is if they can do what they need to do, they will be fine, because everything else they will choose to do.

[MinimMum]

ThreeTomatoes

It was the same for me, worst days of my life. I was bullied terribly by the teachers, in a time where they were allowed to smack you, just for not understanding something. With severe dyslexia there was always something I didn't understand.
It isn't the reason we H.ed though, and had ds1 and 2 complete all their schooling, college and uni.
I know what you mean though its a different world and so exciting and free for the dc. I know mine is involved with so much she couldn't have done if still at school.
She is able to follow her dream and has her own direction and ambition, nothing will stop her achieving what she wants to now.
I look at her and talent aside I am so proud of what she has achieved so far.

[daisychain76]

Thanks for the replies everyone. I feel a bit better now we are away from school. I am more excited than scared at the moment, although it's still a bit of a rollercoaster!