I'm really struggling with a decision we need to make pretty soon.
We moved to our current location entirely for DH's work. This meant me giving up my ok job and taking a lower-paid job I hated until my current job came along.
We've been up here for 18 months and from DH's p.o.v. it's been a disaster. Funding he was promised has not materialised, he's been conned into taking on more teaching than he should etc. Meanwhile (and although i can't say I'm "at home" here)i've found a job i love and which I can honestly say i'm good at. DD is very happy in a lovely school. My life is probably better over all, than it was before,if i'm 100% honest.
DH is now wanting us to move again. There is no guarantee that the other uni would be better and TBH even if he had a personal chair he still wouldn't be earning our combined income IYSWIM. I cannot stand the thought of moving, i went through hell when we moved last time and i'm just not ready to do it again. BUT there's no denying that this isn't a good place for him to work and given he earns more than me and his skills are 100% NON-transferrable can i really insist that we stay here? (His current employer are offering to match other place's offer but would still have the other probs inherent in the dept. he works in).
Sorry-more of a cathartic rant than anything!
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Am I being unfair to DH?
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marialuisa · 19/10/2004 11:37
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