Dd is 5 and pre school and now school have always told dh and I that she is "very bright". I find it hard to judge as I have no comparison. This has been fine but comments made in dds school report at end of reception have got us wondering if dd does fall into g&t category. dd got 9 exceedings and the rest expected bar one emerging. After speaking to the teacher the emerging one is making relationships. Teacher says she plays nicely and shares well but they put that in her report for them to remind then to keep an eye out as dd usually plays with 7 and 8 year olds in the play ground or chats to the teachers. Her report is very good but I assume there will be others with similar (judging by fb statuses stating dc has done well) but it's this older friend thing that I don't know if it's an issue. Googling g&t, dd does match ask the pointers with the exception of liking jigsaws (she doesn't see the point), and that would explain friendship thing too. The older ones like her too as she gets invited to their parties. Just don't know what to do with this info and if she is g&t do school flag that up? What does it really mean and do I need to worry about her friendships? I think it would be easier if she was struggling with reading, that I could help with! Sorry it's so rambling, can't quite decide what I am thinking.
It depends on how she's playing with the older ones.
At that age Dd2 plays well with older ones because she has a mature outlook, and liked games for older children and had a thought process that worked with them. She was treated as a peer by them.
Dd1 used to play with older ones too. The older ones were more tolerant of her not getting social niceties, and babied her. She was more like their "pet" than a friend, although you wouldn't have noticed that by a casual glance, it was more how they spoke to her, and how they acted round her. She would have been invited to older ones parties more because they saw her as a baby who they wanted to please and not upset by leaving out.
Dd2 had no difficulties making friends among her own peers. Dd1's social difficulties were masked by her apparently having some lovely older friends. However now she's 12yo she's still very friendly with one and does things with her on a much more equal basis.
G&T doesn't mean "has social difficulties"! The G&T bit (nonsense term but hey ho) is all in the "exceedings".
Is she your first or an only child? If so, that might explain her gravitating towards adults and older children, as the majority of her interactions in the first few years of her life will have been with adults. She'll get more comfortable with her peers over the next few years. I wouldn't have thought it was something to worry about, although it's good that the teacher has made a note so that people keep an eye on it.
Honestly,there is no longer any requirement or benefit in schools having a G&T register. My DD.s school (outstanding state school, recently reconfirmed as outstanding in every category when inspected 2'weeks ago) has no formal G & T programme but simply differentiates for all children in what they are taught. As others have said, G&T ones not need to suggest social difficulties. Honestly, just trust your judgement and encourage her learning and her development of social relationships.
Thank you. She has two younger sisters and the play a with older children is usually her leading the game. I'm not too worried but slightly frustrated that when we raised it last term were told it was no issue then in her report it is.