I think I just need to write this all down because I don't know who else to turn to.
I suddenly feel as if I'm just getting sucked deeper and deeper into a downward spiral of things I can't control. Apologies if this is a long post but my head feels like it's about to explode...
Basically :
- Both DH & I were both made redundant last year when I was pregnant with DS2 (now 6 months). Fortunately I was offered a job with a new company which they offered to hold until Jan this year. Since DH didn't have a job at that point I gladly accepted it (and to be fair, it is quite an interesting role and well paid). DH subsequently did get another job, but it is not so well paid and may only last another 6-12 months.
Anyway, since starting my new job at the beginning of the year I am beginning to feel I simply can't cope. Both DS1 (now 3.5 yrs) and DS2 (6 months) are in nursery, so of course DS2 has been going down with all the colds & viruses going and both Dh & I have had them all quite badly too. Although dh & I share taking days off if DS2 is ill off nursery, I've already had to take 2 days off from work and 'fudge' a couple of 'working at home' days to look after him.
DS2 is not yet sleeping through the night (wakes at least once, often twice while he's been ill) and this means we're completely knackered and never get a decent nights sleep (even though dh & I take turns to get up to him).
Also I had another c-section with DS2, and my abdominal muscles are still very weak, and since the beginning of the year I've been plagued with backache, which I've been seeing a physio for (with only limited success).
Meanwhile, I'm obviously under pressure to 'make an impact' in my new job, and have also been travelling away at least once a week with early mornings/late returns or overnights, which is putting pressure on dh.
Meanwhile, DS1 is scheduled to have day surgery in a few weeks time under GA which we're obviously worried about. And then finally this week I found out that my Mum, who has been fighting cancer for over eight years now has liver cancer and is going to need fairly invasive chemotherapy - to put it bluntly it could well be this that finally finishes her off - she's in her mid 70's now.
Dh & I have both had another horrible bug for the last few days - him with diarrohea and me with a cough and chest infection thing which has kept me awake for the last 3 nights (dreading going to bed, 'cos as soon as I lie down I can't stop coughing'.
We simply have NOBODY who can help us right now -obviously not my parents and dh's parents are also quite elderly and can't really cope with the kids. And all we both want to do is go to bed and sleep for about a week.
Although I went back to work after DS1, I feel different about it this time - I really miss DS2 and sometimes I feel like crying when I pick him up from nursery because I see him so little during the week.
This weekend I just haven't been able to stop crying and saying 'we have to do something - I just can't keep going on like this' . I just don't know whether I'm depressed, or just feeling so down due to illness, whether I should jack my job in, or tell them at work that I'm feeling so stressed or what.
Although I've been to the Dr recently for antibiotics for my lastest bug, I haven't discussed all this stuff - i'm just worried I'll just get sent away with anti-depressents, and maybe that's not necessarily what I need.