Unwell

[debbiedoodles]

Hello can anyone help me, I think I have depression. I have just started telephone appointments with an organisation but the woman just said 'mmmm' and 'yeah' over the top of everything I said in a really patronising 'I'm not listening but I'm pretending to care' voice. My partner gets cross with me all the time and won't acknowledge that I'm ill in the slightest. I have no energy or interest in anything. I have no friends or family, I just feel so lonely and want some help out of this, but no one cares.

[FuzzyOwl]

Sorry to hear how you feel and the lack of support you have received so far. Have you spoken to your doctor? Often it takes trying a few different types of counselling to find the one that works or helps you and it doesn't sound as though this organisation is a suitable one for you. There are good places out there that you can call or you could find that you prefer face to face or group cbt.

[FuzzyOwl]

[Wolfiefan]

Maybe that's just her voice and she isn't intending to be patronising. Perhaps someone has taught her that it's the way to show someone you are listening?!
What other help do you have? Any meds? Any workmates or any volunteer work you could do to get you out of the house?

[debbiedoodles]

Thank you for your replies. I work full time but have a hard time there too, which I think has made it worse. I try to get up and out but have no energy. I feel guilty if I try and go on my own and also if I suggest partner comes with me. I said no to meds at docs as I already feel out of control.

[debbiedoodles]

Thank you for replying

[debbiedoodles]

Thank you for replying

[LockedOutOfMN]

I think you need to go back to your GP and ask for referral to a counsellor or for an alternative treatment to the drugs you were offered. Good luck. Could you call the Samaritans or another helpline for immediate advice?

[Wolfiefan]

Why would meds make you more out of control? (I am not saying you must have them!)
If you are working then you are getting up and out. Can you schedule a few minutes a day of something you love? Listen to music or have a bath?

[FuzzyOwl]

I agree about going back to your GP and seeing what else can be offered to help you. Do you think a few weeks off work might help?

[MilicentKing]

locked Samaritans don't give advice, they listen and acknowledge. They may ask whether you have support or general questions about how you are feeling, but it's more to encourage you to talk so they can help calm you down.

OP, please see your GP again. I resisted ADs for a long time. Still don't know whether they're helping but I do feel stronger for having acknowledged I am not coping and am willing to accept help.

[Wolfiefan]

I think I have?
Has GP diagnosed? If it isn't too outing then what organisation? Is it NHS linked? Is it CBT?

[debbiedoodles]

GP told me my scores following a 'test' for anxiety and depression (18 and 20 out of 21, respectively) but didn't say I did or didn't have anything. She referred me to a mindfulness book and to the telephone counselling/CBT, asked me if I wanted medication. I drive to work and sit in an office avoiding whoever I can. I can't complete tasks but they do distract me. Work have referred me to occ health. I'm sorry I'm not sure what I was hoping to achieve by posting here, I am in despair, but will sit it out.
Thanks everyone, I think I will ask abt meds when I see my doc. Thanks for taking the time to 'speak' with me