I'm just upset and need to say this as there's no one to talk to about this.
There's something not right with my fiancé' health and I'm so worried about him. He's always getting ill - terrible migraines, stomach bugs, bad back pain, joint pain, tonsillitis, and nausea. Not all at the same time, but he comes down with one of these things every fortnight or so, sometimes less often, and it's bad enough that he has to take time off work. He's not been able to hold down a job for very long. He's twenty five and his CV is so long it's ridiculous and employers now ask why he's had so many jobs and are less likely to hire him.
He has been to see the doctor many times and has been tested for diabetes, being celiac (?), and a few other things too I think. They've diagnosed him with depression and Irritable Bowel Syndrome and Tonsilitis but the IBS meds didn't work, the Tonsilitis is constant, meds didn't work, and they won't remove his tonsils, and the depression hasn't been a problem for a long time now, though it rears its ugly head now and again.
I just don't know how people in his position handle life and could use some tips. How do you hold down a job when you are ill all the time? I mean he'll feel so sick, or have serious migraines, or have terrible diahorrea one day and it's gone the next - you can't really get a doctors note for that can you? Because he's off work just for one day and by time he's well enough to go to the doctors there would be no evidence he was ill? We can't work out what's triggering the nausea and stomach episodes, or the migraines...
Now that our son is one and my fiancé has lost his latest job due to absence, I have decided enough is enough and have got a full time job starting next week. My fiancé will be a stay at home dad and I hope that the freedom and lack of stress will help him to get better. I know being a full time parent is not easy - I have been doing it myself after all - but my poor fiancé has been single handedly supporting us on part time minimum wage for a year now and has been forcing himself to go to work despite how awful or sore he feels. Sadly some day he couldn't do it and that's why he's unemployed again. He's excited to be able to spend more time with our son, though he feels bad for not being able to be the one working.
I just feel like doctors are sending us round in circles and they ask him what's wrong and he's just like EVERYTHING! A while back he was going to the doctor every week or so to try and get a solution for his stomach problems and he was diagnosed with IBS but the medication didn't work. After a while it stopped flaring up so much so he stopped returning to the doctor again and again for it, as his tonsils were now a greater problem. This is what he is always at the doctors for now, but they have pretty much said there is nothing to be done about his tonsils so we are giving up on getting that sorted too.
At the moment he is waiting for a blood test result for potential thyroid problems, so maybe that will be what is wrong with him. I just feel so stressed, and worried about him. It feels like none of these doctors are actually helping him, just performing tests that prove nothing and giving medication that does nothing.
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Fiancé always ill...running out of options
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ParsleyCake · 30/05/2016 00:34
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