Hi made up a profile as I want to remain anno. Been married for 12 years and I have 3 children. My husband has always been controlling , but I am a very indecisive person with little to no confidence.
Anyway, a year ago I got sleeping tablets from the doc. I told hubby and I took one, Now I remember that I didn't think it had worked, and I remember kissing but that's all I remember and I do remember it was me that started it. The next morning hubby said something like "2 times in one night that's new" I was really confused we didn't do it did we? So turns out I fell asleep and he kept going, I told him that's not on and he felt really bad, he was down for weeks I was worried as I have never seen him look so sad, I said listen don't worrie about it Its been a mistake leave it at that.
I took another tablet about a month later and I remember I woke up with no bottoms on, but with out grossing people there was no signes of sex.
Again about a week later same thing only this time my pants were inside out. So I haven't took sleeping pills since, until the doc gave me them again 4 weeks ago, I was so desperate for sleep I took one, I woke up and he was doing things to me I don't want to put on this, he was pushing my face with his hand. I froze and pretended to be sleeping, and going in and out of sleep, he did things to me he has never done before. I kept my eyes closed. I am sure there was a camara flash he "finished" went to the loo, came back in and went to sleep, that time he didn't dress me, cover me nothing.
I love this man more than anything, He is an amazing dad, I thought he loved the ground I walked on. There is a chance I am starting this but I cant remember, is it my fault mayby I am doing it in my sleep. The first time I asked him, "my god I must be rubbish in bed if you couldn't tell I fell asleep", he said that I was moving and making noise, and I was more "free and very responsive" than normal and that's why he managed to do it 2 times. Is sleep sex a thing? I cant sleep, but I love this man I don't have any of my own money I don't work, and My kids love their dad, as a family we are very happy. What if I am wrong and I damage my family, his job, I have no evidence and his phone is glued to him all the time so I cant look to see if there is a pic on there
Sorry I have went on and on.
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is this abuce,rape, or sleep
keykey · 18/02/2016 12:30
I was just about to suggest that.
Either tell him you're taking one and instead take a paracetamol or something. Then you will know the answer.
To be honest it doesn't sound great. It would be worth creating an 'escape' plan in advance of pretending to take the tablet...you need to have a plan about what you will do if it turns out that he's raping you while you sleep.
It's not totally unheard of to have sex in your sleep however it is very, very, very rare and extremely unlikely so prepare yourself for the worst. The very fact that he's doing things he wouldn't normally suggests he absolutely realises what he's doing...
Stay safe and consider calling a Rape Crisis centre, they offer counselling 
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