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I have had 6 years ago a POSTERIOR colpoperineorrhaphy for rectocele and vaginal prolapse was splinting for a long time and bulged in perineum size of a tennis ball.
Repair was successful barring few blips - went back to hosp 3 days after discharge with pain and blood lots - couldn't have intercourse for 3 years due to pain which felt like a cross between a red hot poker with razor blades attached - I couldn't even begin to pretend it didn't hurt - I was screaming but not in a good way and worse still or hurt after 1 attempt from penetration for 2 days solid throbbing - eventually my darling husband turned to someone else and we were wrecked as a couple. I was 52 and my doc suggested vaginal hrt - it worked! Even with the rough vaginal scar tissue I could tolerate it and actually enjoy!!
Now bad again though
Rectocele and intersusseption - not just able to splint now have to manual too
STARR procedure now on the cards and I'm terrified not seen anything but horror stories and how can life go on in you are in continent?
Surgeons always want you to wait a few more weeks - few more months see if it settles down but hey it's not their life being f***d up!
My surgeon in hull is supposed to be expert as is one in Leeds and Bristol
Scared witless now -- HELP!!