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to have abortion or not ?????

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Shaz2011 · 16/02/2013 16:44

I am a mum of 3 & maybe pregnant with my 4th whilst on the pill, my dh is not too happy about it & has said that we should get rid of it if I am but I am against abortions & now feel like I am on my own has anyone had an abortion? & do u regret it? Please I need some input before I can make my mind up for sure

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cazboldy · 16/02/2013 16:47

maybe pregnant?

surely you need to know for sure before you can "make your mind up

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Shaz2011 · 16/02/2013 17:00

True but I am too scared to do one incase it comes out I am & than will have to face the reality my dh will want me to have an abortion

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cazboldy · 16/02/2013 17:02

well you have to find out first

I have just found out I am unexpectedly pg with no 6 and our youngest will be 6 in april.....

actually knowing for sure one way or another might make you and him feel differently!

And then of course..... you might not be!

You missed any pills or anything to make it likely?

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MissyMooandherBeaverofSteel · 16/02/2013 17:06

Its all hypothetical just now, you need to know for sure. The earlier you know the more options are available to you. Burying your head in the sand and hoping it isn't happening isn't going to make the situation go away.

Whether you are pregnant or not I would be reevaluating your relationship if I were you. Is he usually so selfish and unsuportive?

Have you got a friend or family member you could talk to and get some support from?

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Shaz2011 · 16/02/2013 17:30

I have to sit down with dh after I have taken the test but to you question cazboldy no I haven't missed any pills but was on antibiotics & now am 3 days late & have peeing loads & having cravings & gone of some foods

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Shaz2011 · 16/02/2013 17:33

Missymoo my dh is not normally like this I think its cos he is currently out of work so money is abit tight but normally he is against abortions he feels the same way I do so hopefully we can talk about it if it comes to it

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catladycourtney1 · 16/02/2013 17:40

What would YOU want to do if it turns out you are pregnant? It takes two to make a baby whether you were on the pill or not; it's not as if you tricked him into getting you pregnant (I assume). An abortion is a very mentally and physically traumatic procedure, and unlike a marriage (and certainly unlike your current financial situation), it is permanant. If you know you'll regret it, then going through with it just to please your DH could well spell the end of your marriage anyway.

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Shaz2011 · 16/02/2013 17:52

I think I would want to keep it we both wanted another baby but just not in this situation but I think we could manage we have great help from family & friends