Remember, if it were your child........
DD has a slight medical problem which is uncomfortable all the time and occasionally flares up painfully badly (although nothing visible to the naked eye) and will continue to do so until surgery is necessary which is ever closer as problem is worsening. It's also something visible to her peers when she is naked but this has only been a problem at primary school since a residential trip when a room mate spotted it and tactlessly informed others.
After much to'ing and fro'ing the GP and hospital agreed that as she will be starting secondary school this year where the horror of communal showers will be required after P.E. that the next time if flares up she will be listed for the small operation which is inevitable anyway.
By my calculations we are due for a painful episode any day now (they occur regularly and we were asked to keep a log a couple of years ago).
Summer is looming and at this rate she'll either be in hospital having the op/recovering when we are booked to be in France on holiday. I've checked the insurance and we're only covered for one parent staying at home with her so it'll be a bit crap for all of us if it happens in Aug or, in July she has loads of stuff on to do with the new school she's starting and I really don't want her confidence knocking any further if she has to miss all of the induction sessions (there's simply masses of it) and start in September not up to speed at a fast paced school.
I know she wants the op done now, right now, )and she has mentioned pain to see how I've reacted but I know from previous experience it's not that bad yet) so that she is no longer disadvantaged and enjoys her summer of all sorts of lovely things planned before the challenge of secondary school.
She cried whilst chatting with Dh the other night at bedtime. He came downstairs and was very glum, Later he said "how bad would we be if we went along with it and encouraged her to claim worse pain than she is in, to speed up the admission date ?" He can't bear to see her suffer the periodic crises in confidence which have been frequent since the residential trip.
O.K. Folks how bad would we be if we allowed this to happen ?
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ThinkingtheUnthinkable · 20/05/2014 17:19
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