I am just pondering something.
I had never really considered giving up work completely. And I think I am not doing that now. I had always gone on the assumption of upward mobility, getting a bigger wage, with view of getting a bigger house, a garden, better car, you know the normal things. This meant working, and although not full time, this time around I have worked 32 hours.
I am wanting to reduce my hours with baby no.2 here, so that I can spend time with him, and not miss out with DD either. I would like to be there to pick her up from school, at least for some of the week, be able to cook meals for us all, etc.
DH and I talked vagely about this, which would mean him working full time (up to recently he worked part time hours to share the childcare as he lost less money than me by doing so). As well as working full time, if I was not to work, we would not move 'upwardly; for a long time.
I am seriously thinking, sod it. Just cut my hours right back. Not try to make the maths add up. We ^will Survive, we won't go under, but we won't be in luxury (not that we are). Just saying sod the money, sod my career, lets be a mum for a bit.
I cannot think of not working. I think I need to work. But I am thinking of 2 days. Rather than 4, and normal days not long days, or perhaps evenings. I will be able to continue my career development to some extent in this capacity rather than let it go.
I am just mulling it over. Like I said, I had never ever considered not working less than say 26-28 hours before. But now, I am. And losing a very good wage (for the SW).
Who else has done this? How did you find it? Did you regret it? Did you find it impossible financially afterall? Did you love it? how did you cope with not moving from where you were (if in a small place), did it bother you? Did you not care as you could be with your children? For those with older children, do you think your children benefitted, did they appreciate the time they had with you, do you think? Do you wish you had not done it? Are you pleased you did?
I am not wanting this to be a SAHM vs WOHM in terms of what is best for children, but rather, for those who did it, how you felt it was for you, so I can figure out if what I am experiencing should be just considered, or acted upon.
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PavlovtheForgetfulCat · 06/08/2009 16:48
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