I'd be grateful for your thoughts on this.
I'm a lawyer and I work in-house. My "clients" all work for the same organisation as me, but in various different locations. There is one man who works in the same building as me, and I have done quite a lot of work for him over the last two years or so.
When I first started working with him, I was friendly, as I would be with anyone. He took this to mean that we were special friends. He started popping up constantly on the instant messaging system wanting to chat about random stuff all day, and kept making slightly flirtatious comments and quizzing me about my personal life. Eventually I blocked him on the instant messaging system, so he took to sending me emails about anything and everything. He also kept trying to pin me down to go for lunch or coffee with him. I tried to fob him off but he wouldn't take the hint. After a while he said something which really pissed me off (I can't remember what it was now) so I asked him to cool it and leave me alone. He then acted all hurt and wounded, saying he was just being friendly.
At the time I spoke to my line manager and told him about the unwanted contact from this guy. My line manager said it sounded like borderline harassment and asked me if I wanted him to take any action. I said no, I just wanted him to be aware of it in case things escalated.
Anyway, it seems this guy's pride was sufficiently wounded, as he ignored me for a few months. But then he started up again. Although he hasn't said anything as inappropriate as what he was saying before, and I wouldn't exactly describe it as flirtatious, he's annoying me. He just seems to find any excuse to contact me. One time I "liked" an update about something my team had done on LinkedIn, and he sent me an email saying, "I can't believe you liked your own work on Project X on LinkedIn...hahaha!"
I have also recently been out for leaving drinks for two members of his team, and each time he emailed me afterwards (at about midnight) saying, "Thanks for coming to X's leaving drinks, it was nice of you to come!" When I read his emails I thought, "What's it got to do with you? I went to the drinks to say goodbye to X because I like them. It wasn't your leaving do and you didn't organise it, so why are you sending me a personal thank you for attending?" I didn't reply to either of the emails though.
On Wednesday I'm supposed to be spending the day with his team to help them with a project and he's just sent me an email saying, "Why do you have to come and sit with our team on a day when I'm on annual leave?"
(Thank god he will be on annual leave.)
This probably sounds really petty but it's so annoying. Short of asking him to "please fuck off", which sounds really rude, or getting my line manager involved, which feels like an overreaction, is there anything I can do except continue to ignore him?
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butteredmuffin · 04/04/2016 16:54
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