hello all!
feel a little out of my depth here as I am neither a mum, nor pregnant. But I do plan to be!
Im 32, with a wonderful man and plan on having kids in the coming years.
But, I am also about to start a PhD and have the choice of either the UK or Norway. In either case field work will mean we wont be able to consider getting pregnant until mid-2017 (when I'll be 34).
The mat/pat pay and childcare costs are obviously very different, with Norway providing nearly a year of full pay to split to between mother and father and child care very reasonable if not enteirly subsidised.
Here I would get 26 weeks full pay, but father a miserable 2 weeks. Which he is not happy about. And Im not sure we could afford the SPL arrangement even if we qualified, because a full time phd is not considered "work" as you are officially a student.
But the project in the UK is much better for my career and my family are here.
The supervisor in the UK (and most of the team) are male, but he is very understanding and I have discussed these issues with him.
The supervisor (and most of the team!) in Norway are all female!
So question is....what risks am I looking at by delaying pregnancy beyond 34.
What kind of child care costs are we looking at in the UK.
Any wiff of a fairer paternity policy on the horizon?!
And does anyone else have experience with this, especially with regard to Scandinavia?
Do I sacrifice the career or the initial child-raising experience?
Appreciate mumsnet advice!
J
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JesB83 · 26/02/2015 12:13
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