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Feeling bullied at work

(17 Posts)

No one has done anything specific, I am just being excluded. The other members of staff have noticed an jokes that I must be being punished for being signed off sick for a while. Do I mention something or just try and ride it through?

and joked, sorry-autocorrect

flowery Tue 12-Nov-13 20:04:31

Who is excluding you and what are they excluding you from?

My bosses from my actual job! I am being given tasks like cleaning when I am a manager-I in no way consider myself above these jobs as I share these with my colleagues usually. I am not being allowed to do my actual job though or supervise those I am in charge of.

RandomMess Tue 12-Nov-13 20:16:11

Have you been off with stress? Are they very badly trying to "ease you in gently" but making a complete hash of it?

No, I've been off with an injury from work, it's like I'm being punished for them having to introduce health and safety measures!

RandomMess Tue 12-Nov-13 20:33:01

Urgh, it's horrible to bullied sad

How long have you been back?

Lovelybunchofcocopops Tue 12-Nov-13 21:13:43

Isolation and exclusion is bullying, but quite how you deal with it I am not sure.
Do you feel able to speak confront the people concerned ? Do you have an hr dept you could talk to?

I've been back a week, we outsource our hr but they are only open 9-5 and I can't have my phone on me at work. There are only 2 people above me in the company and they are the ones doing it so I really daren't bring anything up as I feel they are waiting for an excuse to get rid of me now

ACS1980 Wed 13-Nov-13 08:59:34

Could you go off site during your lunch break to use your phone or is there an email address for your outsourced HR you could contact?

flowery Wed 13-Nov-13 09:06:59

I can't see that bringing it up would give them a reason to get rid of you. If you've worked there two years they can't get rid of you just like that anyway. If you haven't work there that long they don't need a reason anyway so if they wanted to get rid of you they would.

I'd suggest speaking to them saying you are feeling a bit excluded and are concerned about not being able to do your job and wondered if there was anything wrong, and would welcome the opportunity to discuss your role and your performance.

Putthatbookdown Wed 13-Nov-13 13:20:56

I have been in that situation and I agree with Flowery Keep it all polite and to the point That way if they are bullying that will strengthen their case You need to go above the bullies and take someone with you

Putthatbookdown Wed 13-Nov-13 13:21:59

Sorry delete their and replace with your

I have requested a meeting next week as the big boss isn't in tomorrow, I want to ask outright if they are trying to get me to quit-is this advisable?

flowery Thu 14-Nov-13 18:09:17

Not really. I would advise a more constructive approach as I recommended in my previous post.

Thank you, I shall try and keep my head then! I'm feeling very on edge and am worried about saying something I'll regret.

A big thank you to everyone who posted, I talked to them today and they apologised, seems like crossed wires all round smile

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