I have been bullied at work. Mediation has been suggested and I have suggested I'm agreeable to this but frankly feel terrified. I've tried to analyse why the terror and its because I just think this individual will bully me more (it's subtle insidious stuff as well as outright nasty verbal stuff.)
(HR and manager have witnessed it and acknowledge its unacceptable behaviour)
I know mediation is good etc however there is huge pressure on me to make the mediation work because the bully is holding something over the employer (can't go into what) The bully is insisting that they work alone with me again (I honestly have no idea why, other than its a control thing now? That on its own is all a little weird but control is a big part of this persons character).
I have suggested alternatives...a work location with other people present or removed from the situation. Other location has been refused on organisational grounds (there isn't one in right location for specific equipment and not enough room for other staff to be brought in)
Unfortunately (or not??) I have a particular skill that they need. The bully does not have any skill in this area at all, but such is their hold (legal issue) over the employer they call the shots and my employer is sympathetic but needs me to fix this for them.
I can turn around and refuse mediation, under bullying policy, but its probably professional suicide. I feel I should try. My skill is niche and another job will not be easy to find. (They need me as much as I need them)
HR and manager are really pressurising me to fix this for them (that bully and I work together alone) however ....if mediation 'works' I envisage a break down of the truce and no support so I'm almost in a worse situation than I am now. It's been months already so I don't feel able to cope with many weeks of this.
I have considered
a) resigning, losing my house and destitution :)
b) refusing, feel like my work life would be fouled and a) would become inevitable
c) attempting mediation
d) other
C) my issues are... because of this hold on them, my employers will not protect me in future. So I thought maybe agreeing to mediation but only if the HR lead and manager who are piling pressure on me, join in as well.
Likely solution or not?
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Mediationornot · 08/04/2013 00:04
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