Hi, I'm 6 weeks pregnant and have just had letters through from midwife and hospital giving me the dates of my appointments with maternity support worker (in 2 weeks' time) and 11-13 week scan (in 6 weeks' time). Very exciting! - it's beginning to make it all feel a bit more real. However I'm worried about what to tell work - I hardly ever take any sick leave and would always normally arrange doctor's appointments right at the beginning or end of the day so it doesn't disrupt other commitments at all. However the two appts I've got are 11am on a tuesday morning when I have a routine meeting at work. I would change the appt times but the letters say that's only possible 'in exceptional circumstances'. If I ask for this time off, my boss (who I get on with really well, she's a good friend) is immediately going to know that something is up. To make things more complicated, she has ongoing fertility issues and it feels wrong to let her guess rather than telling her straight. On the other hand obviously 6 weeks is very early and anything could happen between now and then! (We haven't told anyone else yet, not even closest family or friends.) So two questions really - 1. Should I tell her before my first appt, or before my second appt? Or just ask for the time off and let her draw her own conclusions, until we have results of first scan? 2. When I tell her, any suggestions for how to do it sensitively, given her own situation? DH is being hugely unhelpful and I don't think he quite understands why I'm worrying about this!! Any advice? (If it's not immediately obvious from the way in which I'm getting my knickers in a twist about this, it's my first pregnancy). God, sorry this message is so long.
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Wildswimming · 09/02/2013 12:14
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