My mum is dying. I dont know wheter to take a sleeping pill or a glass of wine

[Quintessing]

They say she is likely to pass away this night. I would be there, if my husband was home to stay with the kids (14 and 11). But as it is nothing I can do, I have asked they dont call me.

It has been so sudden, although, really it isn't. It has been heading this way for a while, but a slow decline. Two weeks ago she was smiling and chatting somewhat. At least she was responsive. Today she is laying, her mouth and face has sunken in in that special way. Erratic breathing, but peaceful. My dad saw her friday, she was pretty much like normal, a bit more introvert, but sitting up, and still responding to sweet talk and his old nicknames for her.

I took the kids to say good bye. This will be hard. She has had dementia for half of my youngest sons life. But my oldest still remembers a loving and vibrant gran.

[MaryPoppinsPenguins]

I'm so sorry... is there no one else that can be with the kids so you can go?

[ChristianGreysAnatomy]

I don't know about the wine, although I wouldn't take a sleeping pill I don't think. But really I just want to say best wishes to you and your family and I am so sorry.

[Blogwoman]

sorry you can't be there but glad you and your dad and children have had a chance to say your goodbyes. Good to know she is peacful too. Thinking of you.

[PhilODox]

So sorry, QS. Am thinking of you.

[lokisglowstickofdestiny1]

I'd not have the sleeping pill, in my experience the effects linger for too long. I would have a glass of wine though if you aren't going to be driving. I'm sorry for you and your family.

[Littlelegs19]

Dementia is a awful illness. Thoughts are with you and your family.

[Tarrarra]

Thinking of you. It's bloody hard. I would go with the wine x