do you have room for them to stay in your house when they visit, or do they pay to stay in a hotel/B&B etc
I'm not sure if this is really an elderly parent topic but I couldn't find another appropriate place to put it. My parents are 65 ish and my ILs nearly 70. they have the usual health concerns (heart disease, diabetes, arthritis, etc) but are active and both my father and FIL both drive. we see them usually every 2-3 months, a mixture of us going to stay with them and them coming to stay with us in our spare room. they both live so far away that it's not possible to drive there and back in one day.
we have a little boy so it's nice that they get to spend quality time with him and enjoy being grandparents. we are hoping to add to our family soon and so we will no longer have a spare bedroom. we live in a little 3 bed 1970s terrace house. 2 rooms downstairs- lounge and kitchen, and no study, dining room, conservatory, etc. we currently have a double bed in the box room, it's just enough room for the bed pushed up against the wall, their bags, a lamp and nothing else but is fine for a few nights for guests. if we are lucky enough to have another baby this will become their room and we will have to get rid of the spare bed to make room for the baby's cot and furniture.
I just wondered if their over night stays will stop if we can no longer put them up. we couldn't afford to offer to pay for accommodation etc.
I feel a little sad thinking about it as my SIL lives near her parents (my ILs) and so they have a very close relationship with her children. and my sister has built a loft extension so my parents can stay with them any time (I don't live near my sister- opposite end of the country, so them staying there doesn't mean they could see us at the same time).
I know we can still visit them but it wouldn't be as frequent (we would alternate visits between my parents and the ILs, and my sister- all our family are spread out) as we see them now, and they would miss out on the little things like school pick up, special plays, our local activities etc. I'd really like them to be a part of any new baby's life but it feel like a big change in our relationship. I suppose it's also a worry for the future and how eventually they will stop travelling to visit us and the impact that will have on frequency of visits.
thanks in advance
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Autumn2014 · 26/01/2015 10:05
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